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I've been reading different posts on how some people stay in marriages for the sake of the children. My parents were in a loveless marriage and fought all the time. My mother had utter comtempt and disrespect for my father until the day he died. My siblings and I had to deal with their constant fighting throughout our entire childhood, and I think the relationship damaged each of us (especially me since I'm the oldest) in which we carried the residual effects of our parents' dysfunctional relationship into our own relationships.
I think the question that I'm trying to ask is..."Is it worth it for a couple to stay together for the sake of the children if in the long run the children end up damaged goods anyways?"
I think the question that I'm trying to ask is..."Is it worth it for a couple to stay together for the sake of the children if in the long run the children end up damaged goods anyways?"
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My mom stayed with my alcoholic father for the sake of us kids. In the long run I think it was better for us because we grew up with good discipline. My mom is very easy going and me and my siblings would have walked all over her if my parents divorced.
I look at how my children have responded by having their parents literally hate one another for the last year and a half and I know it is no good. I try to get along with the ex for the sake of the kids. Unfortunately, his girlfriend, the one he left us for, will not allow him to get along with me. I think she has trust issues with that. This I know is not a good situation for the kids.
Score for the kids?
2 of us are multiple divorced.
One divorced once and hasnt been same since.
One has been seperated 20 years but still married.
One is happily married long term. She says she likes to keep her husband guessing to keep his attention.
3 never married with one of them now passed away.
It depends on who we pick for our partners and their experience. I think I would have stayed married to both of my wifes if it were up to me only. That was my background. First wife came from divorced family. Second wife came from divorced and remarried family. I think I made the mistake of assuming everyone who got married stayed married.
My kids are grown and appear happily married to working wifes. I have grandchildren so if I live long enough I will see how things go with them...lol.
Stay for children sakes? I dont know. Some stay no matter what, some dont.
Me's likin this freedom though. I think my son is the loser in all this, my daughter had her parents 8 years longer.
Anything less IS just pretending and the kids will see right thru it, get mixed messages, and end up disfunctional as adults because they got a warped picture of what it meant to be husband and wife.
Continuing to live under the same roof with contempt for each other doesn't do anyone any good.