Recently i have read a lot about our kids, how awesome they are. but.....i'm also reading about how some of us fear that we are failing our kids. a failed marriage or relationship does not define our parenting skills. i was discussing the relationship my children have with their father with two of my kids this morning, why they can't open up and tell him things or defend how they feel, (my kids are all adults)i said, you have no problem telling me things. my daughter started to cry and said, you don't judge us, we don't have anything to prove to you. i was floored. i said, oh thank you, thats why you feel free to abuse me (haha). i'm proud that my kids feel so utterly comfortable with me, they are totally free to be themselves, express whatever emotion they are feeling with me. i know they love and respect me as i do them. it's sad their father does not have the same relationship with them. he has missed out on a lot because he is so dysfunctional. my point is.... love your children, lots of hugs, kisses, time, time, time. your busy, your in school, you work, thats ok, it's not the quantity, but the quality. you can't fail them if you love them and they know it. just be there to listen. stop doubting yourselves. with two dysfunctional relationships behind me, i still have my kids. i may not be able to say i would be ok in another relationship, but i don't hesitate when it comes to parenting, sure, i make mistakes, but i never doubt the love and respect my kids and i have for each other. and when we all work together, we never fail, no matter what we are doing, because we have one another.
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