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OT: Spontaneous Hair Transformation! UGH!

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Perhaps the women can relate. Anytime in my life that I feel I NEED a change or I'm going through a change, I'll spontaneously do something drastic to my hair. A month before I got sober (16 months ago), I cut my hair short. It didn't look as good as the long hair, but I like the change.

Well...I've finally liked the length/style of my hair again, but got this wild idea last week to get my hair permed (it's been 10 years). I KNEW that it wouldn't look as good, but still went through with it today. WHY do I do things like this? My X and my daughter gave me that blank stare and were speechless when they saw the results. WAAAAAAAAH! I want to cry :(
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I do the same thing! If my mom hadn't have been there the other day, I would have died my hair jet black! Which would not have looked good on me! If you wash it now, instead of waiting the 48 hours, you should be able to wash out most of the perm solution, then all you have to do is blow out your hair every day for a few weeks... I've done this before!
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Post a pic...please please...I haven't seen a poodle look in a while. LOL
At least you can do something...my hair is military cut...no options there!
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LOL! You're cruel Mike :) Hey...there was a time I ACTUALLY contemplated shaving it all off!
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It will grow, the first day is always the worse. You are going to love it when it calms down. And kick Mike in the pee pee, he is mean. LOL
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All right....posted pics. Go ahead and laugh! I might as well get the humiliation over with now :)
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Personally, I like it. It may be a little wild for a few days, but it's gonna look really cute.
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I don't do anything drastic except get the grey colored every 6 weeks or so, but I'm letting mine grow out for the first time in many years (I have always kept it short). Through the stress of the divorce/separation I have lost a lot of it too, which really sucks!
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kbc, I think your hair looks just fine! I know exactly what you mean though about making those changes! When I was younger I pretty much did shave mine off! I wouldn't recommend it. LOL! It is only hair though, it will grow out, get cut off, or keep it that way! You might like it.
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You are so beautiful, I think you look great. Just have fun with it.
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KBC,

You could shave your head. You could even dress up in burlap. No matter, you'd still be beautiful. So stop your whinning!!!!
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I just looked at the pics, It looks great! You are beautiful anyway, but I really like it!
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kbc-I actually like it. The way you talked I was thinking you might need a brown paper bag or something....it really doesn't look that bad to me plus, it will relax more in the next few weeks. Don't worry about it!!!REALLY! HUGS.
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KB...now I'm having fun with you but I can honestly say I like it...you look cute and younger than your other pics. ... great smile to boot!
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Lyn....ouch!!!
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I've had my hair every color including an unwanted ash green- been a poodle spiked- you name it, I've always thrived on change. Funny thing is I've tried to grow it out the past three years for my buuthead husband- went real blonde, cuz that's the look HE liked- I'm about due for a drastic change but like you I always hate it when I do!
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