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deleted_user 02/03/2009

I have this guy at work (major weird...possibly gay but on his 3rd marriage) who is a bully. He's not my boss but he "plays boss". I really believe that he's trying to get me fired. I haven't let on to very many at work that I'm divorced, moving or anything so he get's really bent out of shape because his self esteem is tied to everyone thinking he's fabulous. He solves everything by making you a pie! God help you if you don't spend the day complimenting his pie and demanding the recipe! I have been burnt too many time getting too close to co-workers so I stay my distance but this guy feeds on having everyone as "friends". Can't be just co-workers to save his life. Can't be professional. He's out to twist everything I do into something awful. Today after I used my asthma inhaler and tried to stiffle a sneeze, he ran to the boss's office and told her I was laughing at him. **sheesh** I'm selling my home and closing on the new house next Thursday and can't afford to lose my job over this a*s! I've tried to swallow it all and be neutral but what do you do with someone who is trying to get you layed off or worse?

GeocacherNY 02/03/2009

that's what happened to me... someone picked a fight in December... obviously she won, she got what she wished for, I hope she's happy

deleted_user 02/03/2009

What is with these people? Isn't the future of companies and the country in enough trouble? I thought we were all supposed to band together. I would never single out anyone to lose their job ....even in a good economy.

deleted_user 02/03/2009

He's totally GAY!

What type of pie?

P.S. I just found out my boss is totally trying to get my job...since his position is about to be eliminated. So I do feel ya on that.. I laugh.. sorry not much help.. here but.. tell him to stop wearing his last season PRADA shoes..

maybe he'll back off!

deleted_user 02/03/2009

I work with a woman who is, literally, a bully. I think that the rest of us are too shocked that an adult can act the way she does that we scarcely know what to do. I just avoid her. Within the past couple of years, she's all but called me a liar...for simple stuff, like when The DaVinci Code was released, I was mentioning that there were protesters outside the theater near where I had dinner. "No there weren't!" she said. Yes, there were. About a dozen of them with a white sign and red lettering. "There wasn't anyone there!" I felt like offering her soon's "big cup of shut the f--- up!". I mean, why bother arguing?

deleted_user 02/03/2009

All the construction guys as me if he's gay. I really do think so. I've dated guys that could cook...and very well. Even my ex...but they never brought pie to work 8x a month or any other deserts and swapped recipes with the gals. I'm toast!

deleted_user 02/03/2009

Oh...whatever he happens to have in the freezer or whatever he grows in the garden. Lot's of mango-berry pies. Rhubarb-strawberry pies. And he loves to make quiche! He starts all these dinners out and when I decline I pay for it for weeks! He doesn't get it that I hate the 8 hrs a day I spend with him. I'm not spending my valuable free time with him!

HeaveToo 02/03/2009

Ack....I have one better for you....A good friend of mine started the last bit of crap that got me to the point where I said that I had enough of it all and I quit.

It really sucks when people act like this. I thought that we had graduated from highschool but it seems that you never get away from people with that mentality. It also seems that people tend to gang up on someone that they view as weak or having problems because it makes them feel better and more stable.

Hold your ground and stay true to who you are.

deleted_user 02/03/2009

My problem with people like that is they have kids! I feel so sorry as I can't believe it is easier for them than me....At least I can put up a fight. Kids...well, not so much!

lycesq 02/03/2009

Ladyfuzz- I'm self-employed. I do cook for my staff but it is totally their choice on whether they try something or not. I send them a todays food offering memo and it is their choice if the want a freebie or to go out;

By the way, I am an awesome cook, but I don't take offense if something I make is not what they like (ok, we don't talk about the authentic paella)

Lynne

deleted_user 02/03/2009

Ohh tell him.. "stop being such a bitch..here's some midol. AND OMG...are you still wearing those last season Prada shoes."

Just end every sentence with the shoe comment..

Fuzz.. Do you need me to come over and slap him around..? I will.. I swear..

deleted_user 02/03/2009

Oh, it's not the cooking I mind. It's the strings attatched from someone who thinks they know better what I want/like than me.
Case in point. He brought some candy with coconut in it. He asked me if I tried it (sitting in the break room). I told him I don't like coconut, so I hadn't. He pushes the coconut candy at me saying this really doesn't taste much like coconut. I insist I don't want to try it. He continues to tell me to try a little of it (vested in me liking the damn candy/pie/cake...etc). I taste a little of it. Then for the next 6 hours he solicits my opinion of the candy I hated that I now have to lie about. He goes on and on about how wonderful this is.

deleted_user 02/03/2009

KWNK...Yes, would you please do that for me? After all...you can't get fired for not accepting your co-worker's diversity! LOL!

I'll make you a pie for your trouble.

hurtinandhealin2560 02/04/2009

Gee, he's bugging you constantly, harrassing you about issues you don't give a shit about, invading your break time at work, "forcing" food on you that you don't want, making you feel threatened. . .hmmmmmmm.

Can you say hostile work environment? Tell him under no uncertain terms to leave you alone. If he continues to bother you, that's sexual harrassment. Get HIS ass fired.

deleted_user 02/04/2009

Thanks all for letting me vent. I'm off to work now. Everyone is on pins and needles over the looming layoffs. I really don't need his sh*t to complicate my already stressed-out life. I just want this guy to leave me alone. Get over it Bob! I don't like you and don't want to be friends!!! We're just coworkers for gawd's sake! Go play Martha Stewart's Kitchen with someone else! ***grrrrr***

deleted_user 02/04/2009

I had two co-workers trying to get me to leave, they had both been working there alot longer than me, there is a promotion coming up & they both want it, it is for hotel manager, neither of them have the experience & they recently found that i was manager of a hotel for seven years. They were furious so they tried to do things to get me in trouble only it back fired because the boss caught them on cctv camera,s, they,v both had a warning. Makes room for me now, if i get offered the job i will be their boss. They are trying to lick my ass now. Ha Ha

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