Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This was taken from MSN's dating site today.
Are you better off single?
By Margot Carmichael Lester
After a string of horrible dates or a particularly bad breakup, its easy to think dating is for the birds. So, are you better off single? Take this quiz to find out!
1. Your last serious relationship was:
Excruciating. I couldnt wait for it to end. (Score = -1)
Smothering. My partner cared much more than I did. (Score = 1)
Frustrating. I cared much more than my partner did. (Score = 2)
Decent. It was nice while it lasted, but I wasnt devastated by the breakup.
(Score = 3)
Fulfilling. I like being a couple.
(Score = 4)
2. How would you describe your last three dates?
Bad. Why are losers so attracted to me? (Score = -1)
Boring. Id rather stay home and watch Lost. (Score = 1)
One-sided. I liked them, they didnt like me. (Score = 2)
Not bad... but not good either. (Score = 3)
Great. I had fun, even though no sparks flew. (Score = 4)
3. Which movie best describes your experience with love:
Singles. I cant seem to find love at all. (Score = -1)
Fatal Attraction. I can be a freak magnet. (Score = 1)
The (Fru)st(r)ation Agent. I feel like a misfit of love. (Score = 2)
The Kids are Alright. Ive been in relationships with a lot of nice people.
(Score = 3)
High Fidelity. I keep learning from my previous relationship mistakes, and I know theres someone out there for me. (Score = 4)
4. Your soul mate:
May not exist. (Score = -1)
Wouldnt need a straightjacket. (Score = 1)
Is dating your best friend. (Score = 2)
Will take some work to findbut is out there. (Score = 3)
Hey, there may be more than oneand you cant wait to meet em! (Score = 4)
5. You think of true love as:
Something invented by Hollywood. (Score = -1)
A bed of nails. Maybe Nazareth was right when they sang, Love hurts. (Score = 1)
Very hard to find. (Score = 2)
Possible, but Im not sure how to get it. (Score = 3)
Totally worth working for. (Score = 4)
SCORING
Less than 0: Ouch. Youve been out of the love light for a long time and have a pessimistic view of the whole idea, so you need to do something to shake off the dust. Sign up for a class, a book group, or some other activity you enjoy. By getting out and living your life, you increase your chances of finding someone whod like to live it with you!
0-5: Youve had some bad experiences with love, but blaming your dates isnt going to change anything. Dating is a two-way street. Yes, oddballs might be attracted to you, but youre choosing them, too. Take responsibility and look at why youre choosing to date these people. Then take some steps to change the patterns youre perpetuating.
6-10: Youre unsure of your prospects. Start thinking positivelyand take some concrete action to improve your chances. Ask friends to set you up. Post or update your online dating profile and start looking for love in all the right places.
11-15: Youre keeping hope alive, and thats very attractive. But you could do a little more to attract a mate. Ask friends to help you identify your strong pointsand your weak ones. Then emphasize the positive and improve the negative.
16-20: Youre a believer, baby! Its only a matter of time till Cupid works his magic on you!
Margot Carmichael Lester is a North Carolina-based writer and author of The Real Life Guide to Life After College.
I scored 15 so there's hope for me...
Are you better off single?
By Margot Carmichael Lester
After a string of horrible dates or a particularly bad breakup, its easy to think dating is for the birds. So, are you better off single? Take this quiz to find out!
1. Your last serious relationship was:
Excruciating. I couldnt wait for it to end. (Score = -1)
Smothering. My partner cared much more than I did. (Score = 1)
Frustrating. I cared much more than my partner did. (Score = 2)
Decent. It was nice while it lasted, but I wasnt devastated by the breakup.
(Score = 3)
Fulfilling. I like being a couple.
(Score = 4)
2. How would you describe your last three dates?
Bad. Why are losers so attracted to me? (Score = -1)
Boring. Id rather stay home and watch Lost. (Score = 1)
One-sided. I liked them, they didnt like me. (Score = 2)
Not bad... but not good either. (Score = 3)
Great. I had fun, even though no sparks flew. (Score = 4)
3. Which movie best describes your experience with love:
Singles. I cant seem to find love at all. (Score = -1)
Fatal Attraction. I can be a freak magnet. (Score = 1)
The (Fru)st(r)ation Agent. I feel like a misfit of love. (Score = 2)
The Kids are Alright. Ive been in relationships with a lot of nice people.
(Score = 3)
High Fidelity. I keep learning from my previous relationship mistakes, and I know theres someone out there for me. (Score = 4)
4. Your soul mate:
May not exist. (Score = -1)
Wouldnt need a straightjacket. (Score = 1)
Is dating your best friend. (Score = 2)
Will take some work to findbut is out there. (Score = 3)
Hey, there may be more than oneand you cant wait to meet em! (Score = 4)
5. You think of true love as:
Something invented by Hollywood. (Score = -1)
A bed of nails. Maybe Nazareth was right when they sang, Love hurts. (Score = 1)
Very hard to find. (Score = 2)
Possible, but Im not sure how to get it. (Score = 3)
Totally worth working for. (Score = 4)
SCORING
Less than 0: Ouch. Youve been out of the love light for a long time and have a pessimistic view of the whole idea, so you need to do something to shake off the dust. Sign up for a class, a book group, or some other activity you enjoy. By getting out and living your life, you increase your chances of finding someone whod like to live it with you!
0-5: Youve had some bad experiences with love, but blaming your dates isnt going to change anything. Dating is a two-way street. Yes, oddballs might be attracted to you, but youre choosing them, too. Take responsibility and look at why youre choosing to date these people. Then take some steps to change the patterns youre perpetuating.
6-10: Youre unsure of your prospects. Start thinking positivelyand take some concrete action to improve your chances. Ask friends to set you up. Post or update your online dating profile and start looking for love in all the right places.
11-15: Youre keeping hope alive, and thats very attractive. But you could do a little more to attract a mate. Ask friends to help you identify your strong pointsand your weak ones. Then emphasize the positive and improve the negative.
16-20: Youre a believer, baby! Its only a matter of time till Cupid works his magic on you!
Margot Carmichael Lester is a North Carolina-based writer and author of The Real Life Guide to Life After College.
I scored 15 so there's hope for me...
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I scored a 15 too!- Post this again in the new year..lets see how far we have come--
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