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deleted_user
deleted_user
She announced that we would be divorcing in September (see womensinfidelity.com) - I was not consulted. We are still married. I still have strong feelings for her. She is actively seeking other men. She has made it clear that she will not reconcile. I am now actively seeking other women as a means of healing, as my way way of moving forward. The divorce process will take about another two to three months. If the new woman in my life wishes to have sexual intercourse with me in that time while I am still legally married, then I will willing participate.
Bummer of a birthmark, Hal.
Thank you for your time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am not sure if being with another woman will provide you with the healing you need. It would feel good for the moment, and any relief seems good right now, I know. I would just hate to see you get hurt again.

I wish you all the best and every happiness that is out there. Please be careful not to fall into a bad situation that you might regret later.

I know your hurt is running deep right now and I am so sorry. You always have such good advice for everyone and you deserve the peace and happiness you need.

Take care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand what you're feeling and know it hurts. But, is your attitude "if you can do it, so can I"? Is that healthy?
deleted_user
deleted_user
The experts say that you should not even date until well after the divorce is final. That way you have time to rediscover yourself. Why drag an innocent party into the quagmire of divorce?
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
http://www.gagelaw.com/DatingDuringDivorce.shtml

http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/ask_april/dating-during-divorce.htm


http://www.divorcerecovery101.com/legal_hazards.html


http://www.divorceonline.com/whats-new/2007/4/7/dating-during-divorce-isnt-wise.html


http://www.ncfamilylaw.com/download/date46.html

I read these pages and decided not to pursue it, but I think if I did it would have only been frustrating.

I'm not feeling like I'm missing anything.

But if you are, Go for it. Descretion is best
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