Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Sometimes, I just feel like a fraud. I know in my head what I need to do, I need to detach from him, I need to feel what my head is telling me that I am strong, that I will survive, you know the good person thing, I deserve more. Somedays I feel okay - then other days it is like a big wet blanket the insecurities and the self defeating chat and the tears for the past just sneak in there and it all starts over. It truly is a roller coaster ride. I guess you can say making little steps ahead but my gawd - progress is slow.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I have had a lot of success in therapy. I do like talking with friends, but also sharing stuff with an objective listener can feel so good. Once you say all the stuff that you say to yourself to someone else, someone who won't judge you, won't see you at church or work, won't feel compelled to have to know the right response, you will feel freer. I could not believe how this can lighten your load. It is not a cure all, but it is very helpful.
I picture my Psychiatrist. I met her 7 years ago during a very bad time. I see her once a year, Sanity Assurance.
The FIRST thing that she says when we sit down is Always, "So, you still married to that crazy man?"
I like to keep Her response on my minds playback. She was the First Person that acted like I had Worth.
Our stbx's are the devil we know. We are lonely. We might be afraid that we will not ever find anyone to fill this loneliness. So, maybe reaching back, and accepting the pain, doesn't look quite so awful...
On some levels, I would agree. If no abuse was involved...if there is room for change...if compromise can occur-It beats the Hell out of Financial Ruin and Total Lonliness.
I guess it comes down to what you were conditioned to accept.