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One Last Effort

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I posted this on the advice board, but wanted to post here too because this board seems to get more attention. I want to thank the people who already made comments, but I am hoping more will advise.

My husband had an affair with my SIL's aunt and is now living with her. (My daughers had found out about the affair and he made them keep his secret over the past two years.)

This has destroyed relationships. It has destroyed his relationship with his daughters. It has destroyed the relationship of my SIL and his family since SIL's family approves, celebrates and welcomes him as the "new family member."

I am debating whether to make one last effort after 7 months of separation. Please read my journal and let me know if I should send this letter. Even though we are mad at him we miss him, and only he can make things right. I think it is hopeless, but I don't know if I should make one more effort.
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Bert, I posted on your journal entry... wishing you good thoughts, peace, and happiness... hang in there!
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I don't want to be a owner, but there is a lot of water under this bridge, do you think you can ever trust him?
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it isn't your job to make any efforts in this situation. it demeans you and your children. please don't. take care of you.
*hugs*
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i don't know if you have a relationship with God or a strong spiritual connection with a Higher Power of your own. i would pray about this, wether to send it or not. me personally, i would not only because i won't accept being rejected again. good luck with what ever you decide.
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