I spent years of my marriage, being selfish. I blamed our problems on other people (including her), situations, money, pets, you name it, I could blame it. We got settled into a rut and both of us knew it, but I couldn't seem to see reality. Now, we've been separated for a little over 3 months, I've began to get my feet back under me and I am starting to see things more clearly. I have begun to see a counselor for me, I have gotten a lot of issues in my life out into the open, started growing up emotionally and mentally. From this vantage, I can see where the problems were in our marriage, I can clearly the hand I had in our current situation. I can also see clearly, that given the chance, we could make things so much better for the rest of our lives. I was just curious if anyone else had actually used this time to proactively pursue personal growth nad what your results have been.
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