breath honey, take one little thought at a time. this is all about you now, no one else. do what is best for you. this is your life to build as you want.

Wishing you Wisdom and Strength.

I agree with Chrurop - take it slow and on YOUR terms.

I was talking to my STBX this morning about the kids and stuff, and she brought up that she had a dream we got back together. She asked if I dreamed about that too. I said Nope! and moved on to the next subject.

Pony, The seriously ROCKS. She'd have to remove the existing brain and replace it with a new and improved version.

Everyone said they would want to reconcile. My stbx started witht the email..."are you having second thoughts?" Now she is being nice trying to get me to consider it.

dddeeeeeppppp breath....now slowly let it out.....ahhhhh...feel the calm???

at some point, i think alot of us have either considered it ourselves or been asked it by the ex. each situation is different. if you know in your heart that you are done, tell him, release him and by doing that, you can also release the rest of yourself. release the anger etc.
wishing you strength!

i went thru a similar situation recently. he was asked to leave the house, give me custody, pay child supp. , alimony etc. and he brought on some , what i know now as, crocodil tears. he told me about 90 days later after we'd tried to reconcile he did it because he saw all the money going to the attorneys and had to do something to stop it. what a gem Just be cautious. i fell for it and now im starting from square one to a divorce, which he wanted to begin with.

Just curious, why is it the most selfish thing to try and reconcile? Why are you mad at the thought of possibly getting back together and discovering the love you both used to have? I'm sorry I don't know all the ends and outs of your situation.

(I wish that was me)
Think about what you really want and trust your guts.
If you do attempt to get back together, make sure you have clear boundarues, communicate, and counselling.
All the best

I wish he would say that and mean it, and get help because he knows he really needs it....that will never happen....but I wish it would.

No talk of reconciliation this time did it once before and not again. Stbx said I could never trust stbx ever again and for once hit the nail on the head.

I was looking at my wedding picture today thinking what the hell happened to all that happiness? My stbx came by and I knew it was gone forever, she is a totally different person now. Unfortunately no chance for reconcilliation here.

When they knock on the door, it is hard not to answer.

After all the crap my ex has caused this family he had the nerve to tell me that "He'd take me back" HA followed by "I'm going to win you back someday" Has anybody seen any pigs flying? Cause I sure haven't.

Stay strong