Probably a big mistake if he is thinking it was anything other than sex. Good luck!

Well sounds like you need to buy BOB ( battery operated boyfriend) to take care of your needs in the future ( yes I know it is not perfect, but it is a good safe alternative)

Then you need to clearly explain to ex, that it was a momentary weakness and it won't happen again.. ever.. if you let it happen again, you will have no credibility....then you need to learn to "get over it" so you slept with your ex... big deal... if you can keep him at bay and live with what it might do to your head.. cause the effect on your head and emotions will far exceed the physical pleasure..you will be just fine...

Hope that helps...

Ok you are sending this guy very mixed messages if my stbx even went their now I would be pissed and confused at the same time. She left and she told me we were done and it sounds like you are in a similar situation. I can only tell you if I was your stbx. I be all messed up and wonder what is going on in your head. Thats just one guy's point of view so take it for what it is worth.

Do a lot of apologizing and DO NOT let it happen again.

Other than that, I'm with Mike, Good Luck!

Tell him you're pregnant, just to see what he says...

Nice one Randy...lol

It's been a LONG day, and it's not over yet. Bad Randy is all that's left...

Let him know what it was all about. Sexual needs and nothing more. Also let him know that this will not happen again...

Randy - I like that, mess with his head some more.

Other wise I am on the same train of thought as Wick. I almost gave in last Friday, when my wife called me about having a "booty call". I would have probably done it because sex has always been good with us. But she is the one that is choosing to leave so if she has a itch, the toy to scratch it in the bathroom closet. Personally I have felt nothing sexual towards her since she told me she wants to leave.

After my STBX told me he wanted to leave, we had sex a couple of times. I felt that it was just physical and a way of letting go that was more emotionally satisfying-"break-up sex", but he felt it confused the issue because he was leaving in hopes that his flirtation would leave her husband. I guess he felt guilty and was afraid of sending me mixed messages but I know that sex is not love and one does not always imply the other.

Man, this is so were I am at sorta. Because my STBX and I were actually talking last night and were considering to give it another try with counceling and all. (I think it COULD work, but I am so skeptical) WHen I went to bed last night, he was watching some wierd kinda movie, and there waas a LOT of sexual inuendo in it, ect. I have been REALLY anxious lately! Its been so long since we had sex, even before our last big blow out that sent me over the edge. He has just not been interested in sex much and thast one of MY biggest issues. So, when I asked him politely to please change the channel and told him why he asked me a few minutes later if I wanted to have sex. It was so hard to say "No"! But I told him it wasnt fair to him or to me if I did since I dont know where I stand. Now I am second guessing my discion. (Whats new) I feel that maybe he was reaching out to me, and I rejected HIM. I honestly didn't mean anything like that. ANd part of me IS pissed, because if he would just work with me on this issue (and others) BEFORE all this nasty stuff had to happen I might not be on the fence right now. (Or him either.)

Anyway, what I am trying to say is, I hear ya! I feel that sooner or later I am going to give in to that temptation, especially since we still have to live together for now until we can get our finances in order so we can file! (Or whatever) Im sorry this happened, and yes, he will likely be hurt and confused. Who said Divorce was easy and straight forward?

There are many people who equate sex with intimacy and love. My STBX expressed himself this way but had trouble expressing it other ways. If you ever "go there" again - but very up front with him what it is all about.
He'll appreciate your honesty...but he may still hope it is more. Good Luck.

Enjoy it for what it was worth. Someday you may look back and miss those moments. You'll know when your done......

I suppose you have to face facts that you have really hurt them again. There is nothing you can do now but say your sorry...won't go along way believe me...Most likely best if you just stayed out of their life for a very long time as well...weakness and all. Me ans my X got up to stuff after we split (his decision), I think I actually resent him for having sex with me after the split, he made me feel dirty and used and that's what you are about to tell him!!!!

Thank you for your comments. I would like to mention that he dumped me 7 weeks ago when I was just out of hospital. I did not dump him.