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OLD RELIABLE

deleted_user
deleted_user
So here i am trying to pick up the pieces of this nightmare i am living. i hadnt spoke to my stbx in a little bit. She calls me yesterday because she was lost and needed directions. She also got laid off and is having issues finding a new job. so she calls me today and tells me she is on the verge of an emotional meltdown. Why the heck does she find it necessary to mess with me head like this. i was just starting to get over her know im all confused. Am i just old reliable? I dont know what to think about this but not too much.
JennyN
JennyN
Yes, for her you are old reliable....you will always be until you set some ground rules. If you don't want her to call like that, tell her so. Is she saying she wants to get back together or is she just crying on your shoulder?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, you are old reliable and she is using you. Don't let her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
STBX has been doing that, to me, since day one of this.

He even asked me to teach him how to shop-where to buy his sundries...actually Go With Him.

He needs to talk to someone-he still calls me.

I don't want to hear it anymore. I haven't wanted to hear it for a very long time...he never heard me.

Good luck making it stop. These people don't listen.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx has asked me things that I used to give advice to, but don't anymore. She made her mind uop to leave, now she has to make all her own decisions. Said I'm being mean to her 'cause I don't tell her what to do, isn't that why she left, so she could do her own thing????
Let the stbx make their own decisions, that way when it turns out wrong they are wrong, not you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She can only mess with you if you allow it. Cut off communication unless it is about reconciliation.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She may need you as sugar daddy until her job comes thru. Then she will dump you and walk right out of your life again and make it sound like you are the scuz.

Run, Run, Run...like spot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sounds like she wants something, tread lightly ok because you dont want to be hurt all over again after youve begun to heal
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are her safety blanket and when the going gets tough she will come running back. Be careful!
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