thanks for sharing.I choose to believe it is the calm after the storm.

I think it means you are going to be okay , Thats hoe I feel and I am happier than I have been in years.

I have same question, oddly enuf, today. Diff set of facts and events, but same question. I am wondering too. Something feels different.

I had a "calm befor the storm" about a week or so ago, and im haveing one today. I hope that this one is realy the OK stage in my life. So im ganna answer; dunno I hope not. hope it realy is getting to the point where it does not hurt anymore.

This thing happens in waves and stages. This may be the calm between the storms, like labor pains during childbirth. Sounds like you are getting through this stage of separation and learning to move on. Once the divorce is final, if you're like most, you will go into deep grief over the death of your marriage. I'm not trying to scare you, just want you to know what may happen and that, no matter what does happen, you are not alone & will make it through it.

Enjoy the moments of calm and find reasons to laugh!!

Thanks for sharing. It is almost like feeling okay, isn't okay. I am so used to hurting and being upset, that this is unreal.

Divorce should be final just before the end of the year. Hope this next year is one of peace, because this last year has had more tragedies in addition to this, that it is unbelievable.

I'm so hoping it is as onthebeach said "the calm after the storm".

You have been through so much and come such a long way. I can't imagine that you would have more challenges ahead. I imagine when it's final you will feel tremendous sadness but I'm hoping it won't be the gut-wrenching kind that the early days brought.

I'm praying for a better year for both of us. Mine should be final before the year end also.

I haven't gone through that yet, but I think you might get lucky and get to the "acceptance" stage. All the best.

I think it is a sign you are on your way to healing. Don't expect it to plateau, though. You are likely to have a lot of ups and downs for a while. They don't call it an emotional roller coaster rode for nothing. Just enjoy the calm for the time being. Hugs.

For me too it's been 6 mths...MOST days I'm ok....I still have little things that trigger my "sad" emotions but they aren't as intense as they were. Hope that means soon we can move forward :) *hugs to you*

I hope it's the calm AFTER the storm also.

For me, I'm still on the rollercoaster. I've only been separated for 5 weeks, though.

I can't wait to get off this ride!

Congratualations!

Every case is unique, but from what i read i am very encouraged that you are taking a significant step up the healing ladder.

There will most likely still be some days that, well, just arent so good. BUT...that relief and inner peace is a huge indicator, IMO, that everything is gonna be alright.

Be sure to come here and use DS Nation when you hit a slippery step on the ladder. :)

My experience has been that once you start to feel 'OK' there are still some down days. But, the good thing is that the down periods are shorter and farther between. Also, they seem to be less drastic and you recover much more quickly. So, I would say that you are doing quite well and should expect things to keep getting better. YEAH!

yep 6 months... actually 5 1/2 for me... finally heard the words to Unwritten and it all clicked; haven't had a down day since! That was 8/06

That's great you're feeling ok now! Each day will be better than the last.