
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

Sunnygurl
I've posted in here about my situation several months ago. But things have gotten alot worse. I was trying to hold out for divorce until after the holidays, but my STBx is just out of control. His drinking/lieing is just more than I can stand, and everytime he comes home the same arguement takes place. There has been times when I've asked him not to come home till he's sober, but instead he goes out and drinks more! I wouldn't care if he was a happy drunk, but when he comes in the door he throws the whole place up for grabs. He knows I'm upset , and I tell him I don't want to speak to him anymore, but he'll persist to bug me.
I have threatened divorce so many times, but because I have a disabled son I haven't been able to go through with it. I also have left many times over the years, with not very good success. I just feel like he has me over a barrel, and I need some good advice on what to do. The kids don't need to see this, and it's effecting all of us. I'm just completely exhausted, and need some peace, help!
I have threatened divorce so many times, but because I have a disabled son I haven't been able to go through with it. I also have left many times over the years, with not very good success. I just feel like he has me over a barrel, and I need some good advice on what to do. The kids don't need to see this, and it's effecting all of us. I'm just completely exhausted, and need some peace, help!
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The reason it's difficult to leave with the disabled son is for the things I've mentioned, plus a few other things. I have transporation issues, childcare problems, and even worry if he ever gets this child alone for visitation. I have been the only one caring for him, and his speech is limited and behavior is not easy to deal with. His father is not good with him at ALL. So, a bunch of fears run through my mind. I would love for things to go smoothly, but in the past he's played alot of games, and done alot of stuff to make my life miserable.
Plus he's told me if I do try to divorce he'll immediately quit his job and I would get no support. He even said he'd goto another country so the courts couldn't find him. He has mental issues on top of all this and he refuses to take his meds. So, it's a very delicate, unstable situation.
In my first marriage, I had to walk away from everything...house, him, everything; just to make sure my children and I were safe. Keep being strong, and things will be ok. You really do need to join Alanon...I did it online and I was SO helpful.
I know I need to just tough it out and do what I have to do. Support would be great right about now, because he has whittled away at my spirit and self esteem. I've been surfing the web for resources. I just wish it was easier to find answers.
As for doing the alanon online, SunnyFl, could you please send me the link?
Thanks so much, and hugz
Also Children and Family Services can assist you in the same manner. Seems to me that your STBX has controlled you by keeping you completely dependent on him, no transportation,, nor personal finances, and you have spent your life staying home taking care of a handicappped child,,, You really inspire me!.. Lets break the control!
I am here to help you if you will allow me to do so!
A good lawyer can point these things out to you and take proper action to protect you and your children.
http://www.ola-is.org/
http://www.but1purpose.org/
Try those out, and if you don't like them, google some more. When I used them, it really helped (just like DS).