So my husband is a SA and has been since he guessed about his teens. We're both 25 and have been together 4 yrs married 2. His addiction escalated from regular masturbation to cheating. He has consistantly lied to me, and done and said things that have hurt me so bad that I just think I'm done. The real cutter was when I just was bored one day so I checked his email not expecting to find anything but found out that he had solicited women AND couples to come into OUR HOME for a sexual encounter. Luckily none of them had a chance to reply before I blocked them. He says he regretted even sending the email and would have never followed through and so on, but surprise! I don't trust him! It sucks because I really love and care about him and I know he feels the same, but I don't feel attracted to him anymore and can't have sex with him. Before when I would tell him this he would say that he couldn't live life like that and that we should just split but now, since it's ME taking the stand, NOW he can change and doesn't have the desire to do those things and will wait for me for as long as it takes until I'm ready to be intimate with him. I told him that he'd wait about 2 nanoseconds and then change his mind like always. My problem is I'm sad to leave him. I don't want to start over and I don't want him to feel that he ruined his life and mine. I'm trying to look at it like, well, we tried that and it didn't work so lets not try anymore and just learn from it but that's easier said than done. We aren't even divorced yet but I feel that it is coming. Is this behavior normal???
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