I take the blame for alot of why we are getting divorced, but it is my husband who is walking away from our marriage. How do I make my daughter see that I am not solely to blame. She is angry with me because I am moving out, taking her away from her school, friends, pets, neighbors and home. I can't afford to keep the house on my income or beleive me I would. I also can't afford to stay in our neighborhood. I don't want to burden her with these adult problems but it hurts to know she is mad at me for all the up coming changes. I have explained to her that dad doesn't love me anymore but that we both love her and that will never change. I also keep reassuring her that things will be okay, even if I don't believe it myself, yet. She knows I still love her dad and she expects me to make things right. I would love to do that for her but he is unwilling and has moved on. I don't want to say anything bad about her dad, even though he has hurt me, he is a decent person. It is just so unfair that she blames me for everything. We have been so close especially since her dad has been a hands off parent. But now she is pulling away and her dad has, at least for the time being, become a very involved parent. I always wanted them to be closer but not at the expense of my relationship with her. Any suggestions on how I can make her believe that it is not all my fault?
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