Maybe so, but you have to know there is a whole world out there. How do you know you will never find someone if you never get out there and look? It is OK to take your time, but if you really think there is no one else and you can't get out of the funk, maybe therapy is in order. I hope you start to feel more positive.

She was my true love. I mean really my "True Love". Can it ever be replaced?

I am sooo not ready. Unless and until we are healed and over the hurt, however long this may take, we cannot be ready. Once we have healed and become whole again we will be ready. You will be ready when the time is right.

I believed my ex was my true love. My heart was broken when he boarded that plane to Germany and never looked back. I never thought I would be able to fall in love with anyone else, but I have. I had loved him since I was 14. You can imagine...He wasn't my true love, but he did help me recognize true love when it did come along. You will see. There will be a "light bulb moment" where you just get it. I promise. I know you can't see it now, but you will.

I feel the same way. After 20 years of marriage, I just don't want anyone in my life...probably forever. My therapist said this means I have to fall in love with myself first. Once I do that, the veil over my eyes (and heart) will be removed. I'm working on the "me" part but I still have no desire for a relationship. My heart just hurts too much.

I think it is so different for each of us. I think that honestly making sure you are emotionally done with your ex is important to you and to whom ever you become involved with. Also I think that you have to check your motives to see why you want to get involved. To many people get hurt when us folks try to stuff our hurt feelings my replacements.
take care.

I don't have any desire to be with anyone else either. I do NOT feel like my stbx was my "true love", I just no longer believe that there IS a true love out there for me.

I've gone back over past relationships in my mind, and I don't think any of them were right. I don't think any of them really loved me.

I think I need to just get used to the idea of not having love in my life.

I understand and I am in the same boat... I am afraid to hurt again and I am still not emotionally done with my ex. I wish I did not care as much as I do, but that wouldn't be me if I didn't. I left the relationship but I have so much guilt because I know he is hurting and it haunts me terribly. I am not a mean person at all, I left because it wasn't and won't work...that doesn't mean I don't still care though.

I left after 20 years not because I wanted to but because I had to so I'm having the worst time even thinking about someone else as he was my only. I don't know if it's the love for him or the unknown without him that makes it so hard and I am in agreement with hurting, I left but I do feel sad for him and a lot guilty. I didn't take him for EVERYthing but what I did get MUST hurt like hell for him financially but....all he had to do was choose his drinking or me. No, I didn't get chosen. :(

I had no desire either, and it doesn't matter when nobody's exactly lining up looking for you. So this year when I did meet ones I would be interested in, it still don't matter, if they're not interested in you.

I'm sure my desire will be turned on when someone turns it on, til then, I've learned how to be happy with myself ;)

Lost... If she were your true love, your soul mate, you wouldnt be on this site right now. You need to recognize that, first and foremost. She was not THE ONE. "I know you have seen better days, but you have to believe that better days then you have ever seen are on the horizon".

I know the feeling. I'm not sure I will put myself out there again. Not after the way I've been hurt.

I want to find true love.. heck I can't even find a man to buy me dinner?

Men these days don't want any relationships.. just hook ups? what is with that?