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Not gonna make it...

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Folks this is why people get killed by their soon to be ex spouses...

I am an abused spouse who fled her home to a womens shelter. I believe I have a death threat on me. My soon to be ex and I were in court ( actually only our lawyers were) and the judge ordered that I must provide the name and address and my earings to the court under court order.

So now my soon to be ex husband will be able to find me..

What is wrong with this god damn system....so folks I am saying goodbye because I am not gonna make it for much longer....
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I am praying for you...can someone at the shelter help protect you? Are the courts aware of the death threat?? I would call the police.
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I have no definitive evidence of the death threats... so the police think I am a flipping idiot.... the judge frankly doesn' t care.. he is after all a MAN!
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mycherub- The system is broke! So you may have to work around it. What I mean is to set up a post office box or use a close family members address as far as your residence goes. You can doctor your paystub by making a phony address. Better yet you can ask who you work for to give the court a letter from the home office (not where you work).

My recommendation is to lie if you have to because it involves your life. Usually the shelters can help you with being relocated even if you have kids!

Hell you can stay with one of us! I don't know you but I dare your stbx to come to my place! Matter of fact you can use my address!

I will pray for you!
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I will pray for you. One of the first moves I made was getting a po box. I do not know if we are allowed to submit links....but this one has helped me a lot.
http://themodernwomansdivorceguide.com
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the order is for my employers name and address and I already have a po box number. my lawyers staff this week gave my confidential email address to the other side by mistake and guess what then she put my real physical address in an email to me.. make syou wonder if these really are all mistakes or planned events.
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Cherub, I'm not the least bit concerned, and you know I don't mean that I don't care, I just don't "feel" the need to be concerned.

I fully believe that you will be OK.
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Dear friend, if you're in the shelter now, stay there. I hope you're wrong about the death threats. I know you're worried and I'm worried for you. Just do what you can to keep yourself safe.
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