dumpees? isn't it politically correct to say The Left?

It's the Leavers and The Left.

STBX said we drifted apart, I tried to show her we didn't, realized she was Right, so I Left, and it wasn't Wrong, so I Write. :)

Thanks Larry. I'm new to this. I certainly want to politically correct.

Welcome to DS :)

Hmmm. I kinda fit in there somewhere. I was left as in he had an affair but technically I was the Leaver because I filed.

Cool! I'm the party of the first part AND the party of the second part! I feel a party coming on!

Seriously, a spouse that cannot sit down with his/her partner and just say "Hey, let's talk. This isn't working." Well, there's just some kind of character flaw there in my opinion. It's called cowardice.

I handled it with beauty, grace and charm........plus DS, a shrink, meds, a few Vodka's and lemonade, and I once rubbed his underwear in poison ivy. I thought that a little juvenile though and washed them. He's lucky!

Get creative! Get talking to DS friends you'll get through this!

i didn't know we politically corrected things. i thought i was still a dumpee, no i'm finding out i'm a left. gosh i'm so out of the loop.

That's is tough, I agree. My H is a habitual leaver. But recently he added leaving his job. I did not want to hit him with a for cause suit at that time. Mean, and too much drama. Irreconcilable differences is better.

So, she was either trying to hurt you, is a drama queen, or doesn't want the waiting period, or some or all.

You Answer or Countersue.

I told my stbx I filed. We had been separated a few months, I didn't have to tell him it was coming but I felt it was the respectful thing to do. I think it helped set the tone during this process of divorce.

I'm sorry for your situation, you'll find a lot of support here.

bump. Lost in the stampede.

Maybe she procrastinated on telling you, and it happened. It happens several days after you do the work with your atty - maybe she thought she had more time. Maybe she is just a wimp.

She Left...I'm all Right now. Takes time.

if the people that were left are called The Left who's right?

If we're The Left, They're The Wrong, we may Write them off

We don't know who's the Right

Yes, its the dumpettes that are wrong, the left is right.