unless there is an order in place for you to pay her ANYTHING, you are not obligated to. Start the ball rolling legally so you have rights to see your child!

Hey dude, sorry you are going through this. It is tough. Maybe she is doing this cus she knows it gets to you.

Why are you giving her money? Is it for your son? Is this something the court worked out?

I would limit the giving her money. It is almost difficult to cut her out altogether cus she probably needs the money for the kid, hopefully.

Are yous in process of divorce?

Allen, do you have a court order for visitation? You need to see your son regularly to let him know how much you still love him and to reaffirm that father/son bond.

Also, have you thought about joining a support group. I know sometimes that sounds yucky, but I joined one and it has been very helpful. People there know and understand what you are going through. The comfort you and give you a little kick in the behind when you need it too!

You need all the support you can get right now. We are here for you at DS. Seek out all the help you can.

You just get through it bc there is no other choice. In time there will be court ordered visitation. Have you talked to your lawyer about getting a temporary custody and support order? That way you know how much support you should pay, and there are clear periods where your son is with you. As far as someone to go through this with, I know I am just words on a screen, but I am a real person and I have felt what you are feeling. Message anytime. You are not alone.

Its hard to stand alone. You have a son so its up to you to be strong. In the end this will be a good work out for you, to develop into the man you want your son to be. A walking, loving example to him. I agree with all others that this divorce stuff is not easy at all. It can be used for a change in outlook though, since you are going thru change anyway.

You and me need to get thru this day. I feel like I also have no one to support me in real life, we have to hang in here with the help of our DS friends while we figure out how to build supportive relationships in the real world. I know what you are saying when you say it feels like it is too much too handle, for different reasons, but probably a very similar emotion. We just have to get thru this day, that's all we have to do for now. We can do that with the help we get here.

I know I have to get thru this but, will I be sane?