
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I am new to your forums and I would first like to say hello to everyone. I hope that everyone had a great holiday and all went well with you and yours.
I am sure my story is the same as all of you a bit different here and there but the same in the end so I wont bore you with mine.
However I do have a question. Emotion, I am not sure how to handle it. There are times like tonight when I am almost eating my heart my heartbeat is beating so strongly. There are other times when I feel like I just need to grab somthing and destroy it whatever it maybe. It\'s a rollercoaster that I almost cannot handle. It has begun to effect my job, my patience, my life. Not in a good way. It has almost gotten out of control. One minute I am calm and myself the next I am almost in a rage and there is no warning. One minute I am calm and collective and the next I have absolutly no patience. I have tought about a shrink but I fear this may cause me trouble with my custidy. So I have ruled this out. I have no one tht I can converse with my friends are limited at best, more like aquaintences, people who call me when they need somthing. Not to mention I am very shy, always have been. This and many more options are simply not in my power. This is why I am here tonight I think I maybe close to my breaking point. What do I do?
I was married since I was 18, fourteen years. When I walked into that bedroom it almost knocked me off my feet, I had no idea. I did not see it comming. I have learned now that I simply did not know her any longer, or maybe I just Ignored it, I really have no idea. The custudy battle and the divorce kept my mind busy now it is all over and I set here and stew. I have begun to drink, I dont drink and seldom have before. I have begun eating painpills sold to me at work, I Have done pot one time before this and I am very anti drug. However this is the ONLY time when I have a moments peace and my soul and heart finnaly rests. I know there is no simple answer but whatever you can offer I am willing to try reguardless the cost. I am afraid my body tires and my emotions run unchecked. I fear I may be close to my breaking point and cant seem to stop it. Help, what can do? How can I change this course? somthing, anything, please tell me.
Im ranting again, sorry I just seem to lose it more and more here lately, you are the first I have talked about this. For me to be here means im in trouble and I know it....
I am sure my story is the same as all of you a bit different here and there but the same in the end so I wont bore you with mine.
However I do have a question. Emotion, I am not sure how to handle it. There are times like tonight when I am almost eating my heart my heartbeat is beating so strongly. There are other times when I feel like I just need to grab somthing and destroy it whatever it maybe. It\'s a rollercoaster that I almost cannot handle. It has begun to effect my job, my patience, my life. Not in a good way. It has almost gotten out of control. One minute I am calm and myself the next I am almost in a rage and there is no warning. One minute I am calm and collective and the next I have absolutly no patience. I have tought about a shrink but I fear this may cause me trouble with my custidy. So I have ruled this out. I have no one tht I can converse with my friends are limited at best, more like aquaintences, people who call me when they need somthing. Not to mention I am very shy, always have been. This and many more options are simply not in my power. This is why I am here tonight I think I maybe close to my breaking point. What do I do?
I was married since I was 18, fourteen years. When I walked into that bedroom it almost knocked me off my feet, I had no idea. I did not see it comming. I have learned now that I simply did not know her any longer, or maybe I just Ignored it, I really have no idea. The custudy battle and the divorce kept my mind busy now it is all over and I set here and stew. I have begun to drink, I dont drink and seldom have before. I have begun eating painpills sold to me at work, I Have done pot one time before this and I am very anti drug. However this is the ONLY time when I have a moments peace and my soul and heart finnaly rests. I know there is no simple answer but whatever you can offer I am willing to try reguardless the cost. I am afraid my body tires and my emotions run unchecked. I fear I may be close to my breaking point and cant seem to stop it. Help, what can do? How can I change this course? somthing, anything, please tell me.
Im ranting again, sorry I just seem to lose it more and more here lately, you are the first I have talked about this. For me to be here means im in trouble and I know it....
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This place makes me feel better. Just getting it out there, wether or not anyone listens is a good thing. Then to get a response helps too.
One thing that might help is realizing that what you are going through is the normal human response to a terrible situation. Sounds like you walked in on something and it was traumatic for you. The most dangerous thing you can do is to keep it to yourself. It will come out in some form. I do not know about seeing a doctor or shrink. But I do know that most clergy are trainedin counseling and they cant be touched by anyone. You dont have to be a real religious person to seek help from your church. I certainly am not very religious, but whenever one of my soldiers had a problem the first person I called was the chaplain. Including folks who saw or were in combat. Trauma like yours is very similar to that and can be treated, just by talking to someone who knows how to help you deal with it.
The things you talk about, therage and ups and downs are real, they are normal and they can get out of hand. But they can be controled to. Good luck brother. Get in touch if you need to talk.
I wish i was here for this one. I would have wrapped my arms around you. I would have told you.. God knows your pain. He has great things ahead for you. You might not know what they are but I bet they are amazing..
talk to.
Big hug and welcome.
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When do parents stop using months and start using years (ya know, grownup numbers) to explain how old their kids are?