Whaddya mean your not a Raiders fan???? tsk, tsk, tsk. :)

I can totally understand wanting to nest and retreat from the public. An NFL game does sound like an overwhelming way to get back into the social thing; but it could be a good thing. You will get out of the house, it is a chance to meet new people, make some friends and maybe you will find that you like going out and socializing. I think you have many good points to not go, but going is to do something for yourself and not be alone. On some levels, isn't that better than nesting?

I am more of a 49er fan myself although I was raised on the oakland bay side. however, I know how you feel about getting out in big crowd's. I like the term nesting faze. I think that is where I am right now too. Do what feels right. its ok to decline, if that is what you want to do. Think about You. just my opinion

You have to take care of yourself right now, don't feel guilty if you don't want to go. Sometimes I really have to force myself to get out and end up enjoying myself - it might be fun.

Funny, I too had the opportunity to go to a Jets game last week. I also thought it would be too emotionally taxing on me. Never went.

The chance to go to any football game? I'd be all over that :) I just love football. But I see your side too. Whatever you do feel comfortable with your decision.

i can understand your reluctance, after all it's not a patriots game. haha. do what makes you happy. but you might miss out on having a great time, with a group of people.

Well I can see you feeling bad if it was a Panthers game, but I understand what you are saying and feeling. Kind of hard to go to places with loads of people there. And Taffy, you can't honestly tell me you are still a Raider fan? UGH that is brutal! LOL

In my opinion you should go. It is the opportunity to step out of your comfort zone. The more you do that the easier it will become.

Plus, it's the NFL and you'll see some good hitting, which may help you as well b/c your frustrations can be placated with the sound of NFL violence.

Get up, dust yourself off and try to go.....

I wonder if my reluctance to go to the game today has other reasons that I just don't want to talk about much. The gal who invited me, who I have known for 100 years (only person on earth who made sure to keep track of me since I was like 15 yo) just lost her SO a few months ago (death). Well, I wasn't really there for her, did the minimum, don't think I understood loss near as well as I do now! Well, her SO was married and they had been dating for eyars with his wife's tolerance (at least that is what I am told). That bugs me more than it used to, the fact that my friend was with a married man all these years. Ugh, it feels awful to say that, I have always hated to be judgmental, but i wonder if that is filtering in somewhere. I know that the OW in my life has a husband & he called me several times early on and he is basically jsut tolerating his wife's lovers (including stbx) cuz she has had lovers thru-out their 20 yr marrige. Sounds to me like he doesn't particularly like it that she has lovers, but she has told him (and she told me she told him, early on before everything that has happened) that he either puts up with what she does or he can leave adn he is too insecure to leave. I feel sick to my stomach now just thinking about her telling me that before I knew she would do it with my husband too. OW is sick. And I am rambling AGAIN for the 2nd time already this monring. Boy, I am in a stte this morning!

It's a football game, you shouldn't have to do much talking. Go out and escape for a while, it'll do you good. Doing anything is better than doing nothing!