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Newly filed divorce

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Papers were filed Monday and depression has been difficult to deal with. Had to drive 700 miles immediately following the lawyers meeting and it was difficult to say the least.


For me the acceptance it is over is the hardest part. After 22 years of being together I'm now alone. Terrible feeling of failure at this time. I know a large portion was due to me not paying attention, ignoring her wishes, etc... Was never unfaithful physically, but emotionally I was wrong. She can not forgive me for the past.

Just have no idea what to do at this point.
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dave I know the feeling.. but I guess we have no choice once they make up their mind.. We just have to move on.. Stay stong..
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I believe that regardless of who files, it is very hard to deal with. I truly believe that it takes time to absorb what is happening and grieve what is is going on. Keeping yourself busy and even writing on here about what you are going through helps relieve the anziety or whatever feeling happens to be floating through. I found that my feelings change and that is good when it's not so good!
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I know the feeling, you feel like it is your fault, but its not all your fault, she has to carry some of the blame, just like I blame my stbx, yet I know I share in the problems too. We both have made mistakes, we both have said things that hurt and we both need to get on with our lives as hard as it is. So Dave, stay strong and you aren't alone! This place has really helped me a lot! Thanks to all the friends I have met on here.
Take care of yourself, you sound like a good person, be proud.
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I'm with you brother, 35 years for me papers being filed this week. I think the first step is to find yourself. I'll let you know when it happens.
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23 years for me. At first I did feel like a failure, but now I understand it isn't a failure. I had 23 wonderful years. Hang in there, we are here for you.
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