Hi KellyAnn, You've found a good place to share your feelings. A lot of good people here who will lend an ear when you need it. I know what you're going through. Most of us have been through those feelings --or are still going through them. I guess my only advice right now is to lean on friends and family. Stick around!

Kellyann, I'm SO sorry that you are going through this right now. It is NOT easy by any means. I KNOW it hurts. The life you "KNEW" has been ripped right out from under you. The most important thing is to concentrate on YOU now. YOU have to do what it takes to keep yourself busy, whether it be a hobby, change some of the interior of the house (I.E. curtains etc.) & try to "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" You're In MY Prayers!~! I'm here if you need to talk.

we are here to help. We can give you all the support you need.

Thank you so much I'm just taking it one day at time. Trying to stay busy but hard to focas on anything at the given moment. totaly devasted

hi, I know what you are feeling right now and this is a good place to get the support and have people that will listen to your roller coaster emotions and will help you though the feeling as we have been there too and understand.

Welcome, Kelly. most of us have been there. you're on the roller coaster, huh? i was on the high speed carousel...damn thing seemed like it never stopped for the next group to get on!

It's not gonna be easy for a little while, but when the tide turns it is frickin' magnificent. (I know you dont need to hear that right now, but just store it away for later)

There are a ton of great folks here who will be a godsend to you, trust me on this one...

I completely understand, Kelly. I know, it may not seem like it right now, but take it "One Step, Minute, Hour, Day At A Time." Even if it's a TEENY, TINY baby step, it's a step forward. Also, it may not seem like it will EVER get better, but IT WILL!~! If you need to talk, I'm here for you.

I am so sorry. I understand the devastation. The rollercoaster is no fun but you have no choice but to ride it out. At the beginning ( 3 months) ago I wouldn't believe this, but yes, it does get easier. Not easy, but easier. Keeping busy is good. If you don't have a pet, get one. Seriously, they are amazing companions. Talk, talk, talk, let your friends in. This is the most difficult time of the process but you'll get through it and we are here to listen.

*hug* welcome to DS!! btw, I'm the crazy cat lady.... its all good....our animals love us and understand us and are a GREAT source of strength. I'm sorry you are going through a rough time right now....take some deep breaths...take it day by day and you'll get through it (to me, you don't get over it, you get through it, and it'll change you...whether it changes you for the better or worse is up to YOU) :)

Welcome KellyAnn. As most people here will tell you my motto is:

Tomorrow will be better than today.

Follow that rules and no matter what happens this rule will carry you through tomorrow.

If the day is bad, the the next one will be good. If the day is good, then the next one will be great.

You will go through the rollercoaster for a while, but keep believing that tomorrow will be better than today.

We are all here for you. Use us, we have lots of advice and even tough love when its necessary. You will make a lot of friends here, trust me.

12 yrs, "I don't love you", and 3 dogs in my case. Empty house starts Nov 3. Anyway, you are not alone. I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this too. The folks here at DS have been really supportive and helped me through this. I hope you'll feel the same way.

Someone told me that divorce is the hardest thing you can go through in life besides the death of a loved one. It is normal to feel really bad but time will heal you and the road to happiness is now in front on you!

thanks bhamguy we had 5 dogs and a cat he took two. the three he left me with have been a godsend right now they keep me focused

Welcome Kelly Ann, know well the roller coaster ride your now on - same boat here we were together 21 years (been 4 months) some days are good, some days are bad - but you carry on someway, somehow

Welcome Kelly Ann. I know the story--13 years and then one day he doesn't want to be married anymore. He stopped sleeping at our place May 10th. I spent months on a really intense roller coaster of devastation, denial, self pity, anger, etc. The lows are not as low now and the highs are higher. Don't put too great of expectations on yourself to change your whole life right now. Just focus on getting by day to day. And lean heavily on the people in your life (that is also what we are for). I am much closer to my family and friends now and realize how nice it is to have genuine uncondiitional love (unlike that of my stbx...).