Hello everyone - I just joined this support group, however, I have been on DS for about a year because I am a member of the alcoholism support group. Yep. I am an alcoholic. I have been in and out of recovery, and I am really trying to get my sobriety established now more than ever before because of custody issues with my "soon to be ex-husband". I have been married for 8 years, but my H and I filed for legal separation in March 08. HOWEVER, we still live in the same house for financial reasons. This makes for a very difficult situation - sometimes I feel like we are just living together and nothing has changed, and sometimes it is like living with my wortst enemy. My husband has been abusive (physically) a few times. We have never tried any marriage counseling because he believes that all of our marital problems are a result of my issues with alcohol and that I am 100% to blame for the marriage falling apart. My husband is insanely co-dependent and controlling to the point that I think he may be 'sicker' than I am. Clearly - it is not healthy for anyone involved. I am starting to try to find my strength and gear up for an ugly divorce and then HOPEFULLY move on with my life in a positive direction. I hope that the members here on DS can help me, and I, in turn, can help someone too.
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