Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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My ex of 4 yrs now, has been trying to sabotage my life. he manilpulates the kids, calls the police on me saying that i choke them, tells the kids horrible lies about me, doesnt pay supportand and calls atleast 5 times a night. When i got home from taking my oldests sons friend home i saw two cruisers out front of my house. Instant anger cuz my bf\'s parents are here, aswell as my bf who happens to be a cop. This is for obvious reasons not a good scene, as my ex\'s accusations are that my bf hit the kids... Which he didnt... but the real kicker is that i picked up the phone while my one son was on it and i heard my ex ask my son to check for redmarks, when my son said he didnt have any, my ex asked how he knew, he told him to look real close in the mirror and that if i ever yell at him or give him trouble to call the police... I heard my son sy that \"mom didnt do anything\" and that when I said enough is enough do not call here anymore....an hour later the police were here. I dont think he should see the kids anymore, he is constantly brain washing them to be against me and its making things real hard to handle at home.... any advice?
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My dad\'s ex wife was mentally ill- she gave all of their grocery money to the church and saw angels on the ledge in the kitchen talking to her all the time. One night long after my parents married and they had divorced (I was about 8 years old) the police arrived in the middle of the night asking for my dad- his ex wife called the police because (the angels had told her that my dad was hurt) she thought he was hurt so the police were called to check on him. As a child, this was really frightening. You don\'t want your kids to think that his non-sense is normal.
really wishing you good luck in this difficult task!
Thinking of you-
Your mention of manipulation and brainwashing concerns me. Before you get to custody proceedings, I recommend reading up on parental alienation syndrome. A good place to start with that is the book \"Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex\" by Richard Warshak; find it in a library near you with this link: http://worldcat.org/oclc/47289226
Do your children understand what\'s going on with their dad? It can be terrifying for children who don\'t know that a loved one\'s strange behavior may be due to mental illness. A family therapy setting is a great way to discuss this, but there are some books that can get you started.
Here are two for parents and teens:
- Children of Parents with Mental Illnesshttp://worldcat.org/oclc/43066822
- Troubled Journey: Coming to Terms with the Mental Illness of a Sibling or Parent
http://worldcat.org/oclc/36008407
And four for kids:
- It Won\'t Last Forever: A Child\'s Book About Living with a Depressed Parent
http://worldcat.org/oclc/30040031
- Please Don\'t Cry, Mom
http://worldcat.org/oclc/28378681
- What Happened to Mommy?
http://worldcat.org/oclc/33266463
- Wish Upon A Star: A Story for Children with a Parent Who is Mentally Ill
http://worldcat.org/oclc/23047380
Good luck and keep us updated on your situation.
-- Melissa
In my county, psychological and emotional abuse is a reason to seek a restraining order. I called the county when my ex\'s harrassing phone calls were getting out of hand. He never threatened anything except refusing to pay child support, so I wasn\'t sure if I had a reason to file for a restraining order. When I called I found out just name-calling is good enough. This is an awful thing for both you and your kids to go through, and I wish you the best of luck.