Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am new to this site and was blown away by the common feelings of divorce regardless of gender. I am a 40 year old male. My marriage of 10 years was done once my soon to be ex wife affair was discovered. We have been separated for a year and in final stages of divorce.
Oddly enough we are able to hold great conversations and she comes over to drop off the children. I try my best to smile but everytime i see her it kills me that we are not together.
I am now in a place of feeling very lonely, angry and sad even after a year. And the fact that infedelity was an issue, i often feel as if something is wrong with me.
The sad part is that i would accept her back in a heart beat but that is something i leave in my higher powers hands. I miss her so much, when will the feeling of moving on come?
Oddly enough we are able to hold great conversations and she comes over to drop off the children. I try my best to smile but everytime i see her it kills me that we are not together.
I am now in a place of feeling very lonely, angry and sad even after a year. And the fact that infedelity was an issue, i often feel as if something is wrong with me.
The sad part is that i would accept her back in a heart beat but that is something i leave in my higher powers hands. I miss her so much, when will the feeling of moving on come?
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The feeling of moving on comes, when it comes. It's different for everyone.
You will find some very supportive and helpful people here.
This is a good place to meet great people who are going through the exact same thing you are. Best wishes to you.
You will feel like moving on, when you make up your mind that you are through being hurt! It will come when you realize that you are worth so much more than the way you have been treated!
Healing hugs for you!
Welcome. Oh, and I agree with Nikki re: your wife's affair. It has less to do with you and more to do with her personal "issues" and choices.
I feel a sense of relief and maybe because for many years I felt disconnected to him. He lied alot and it was my way of protecting my self.
I see his act of infedelity as a selfish act. He did not think about me or our kids and this is hard. I guess I am just in the begining of this rollercoaster ride to recovery. my feelings are unpredictable and it sucks!
Where did you begin?
It will take some time hun...but you will get through it.... Take time to heal and get then pick your self back up... you can do it!
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Madea,. Letting go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqDU6CPwy6Q&feature=PlayList&p=0B33BD2E54A04699&playnext=1&index=3
Moving on takes time... infidelity... hurts like hell... you need time to heal. It's harder when you have to have contact for the sake of the kids. I know after 5 years it still feels like salt in an open sore.
And I know all about that taking them back feeling. We're here for you! Hugs!
First of all, don't think that the fault lies with you for your wife's infidelity. That is a common mistake the betrayed spouse makes, perpitrated by the cheater who often says, "If you did this or that, I wouldn't have cheated." Know that cheating is a selfish behavior and cheaters do this cowardly act because they lack courage to do the right thing.
I commend you for trying to be friendly with your ex for the sake of the kids. I know that must be difficult.
There is no timetable for healing; everyone heals at his/her own rate. I would suggest counseling, if after a year you still are struggling. I go to counseling and it has been very helpful with my healing process (my stbx is also a cheater). I also journal and that helps tremendously.
Hugs to you. Trust me, it will get better.
Hang int here!