Iam a 50 year old woman with three teenage children. I have been seperated from my husband of 20 years for 6 months but it has been about year that I have been dealing with the break up of my marraige. Last June, he told me that he was in love with the woman that he riding with to work. I was devastated but ready to move on and then he backed down as he was not sure that she would commit to him. She is married and is still with her husband. I told him that we could work on the problems in our marraige and see this as a new start. I was not happy with the state of my marraige before but was unable to get him to work on it with me. As a result, I became depressed and became someone that I would not have wanted to be with either. I was jolted out of my depression by his declaration and started to make the changes he and I both wanted. However, he kept harping on my old faults; bad housekeeper, not interested in sex, withdrawn... and also kept demanding that he be allowed to continue his other "friendship". I told him that it was his family or her. Finally, he told me that he had told her that they could no longer be friends as he had to work on his marraige. That lasted for two days. For five months they contacted each other behind my back. Last fall, he admitted that he was still interested in her and was moving out. We have three children, a house which we had just put an addition on and 20 years of history, but he left it for a woman who is married with two children and told me that she is not interested in an affair but who knows what could happen in the future. My husband moved out in November and we have been through an emotional rollercoaster since. The children are angry at him and do not want to spend time with him. He blames me as he has for every other problem we have. Currently we are going through family counselling to solve the issue. He wants a divorce and I feel torn. I want to move on but have not been completely successful. I am hoping to get the support and strength that I need to get on with my life and be there for the children. I still care about my husband but I do not want to hang on to false hopes any longer.
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