I am 36 and married for 3 years but together for 10 total. We seperated almost 1 year ago...he got rhumatoid arthritis and didn't deal with it well...drinking and friends every night were his cure so we seperate, sell the house and try to work on things. We fight but we were seeing each other, he was spending the night on weekends, sometimes during the week (we have opposite work schedules) until about 1 month ago the sleepoves stopped...he was too tired and just wanted to go home he said. Well, I was home yesterday and watching Oprah and it was about cheating so I do the wrong thing, I get his cell phone while he is sleeping and look...no numbers I feel are out of the ordinary but then I listen to the VM and there SHE is! A female who is obviously tired of being the "other woman" and upset he was with his family on the 4th of July. She basically told him to choose...me or her. So I confront him and he denies it...of course. Now I know why he hid his cell phone and I never got a key to his apartment. Today still denying it and probably will never admit to anything. he said he will fight the divorce...but why? because I am the perfect wife, I do everything and more and he doesn't want to lose that. This is marriage number 2 that has ended this way and I am so sad. We have no kids togather, no home and now no marriage. I have a daughter, 12, who has been raised by him for 10 years. I am upset but I won't cry...I cried the forst time and he is just not worth it! It's just hard starting over at 36 years old.
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