I promise you...it will get better. Its an experience I went through after my first divorce and I'll face it again soon. It takes some time, but the fear, the insecurity, the isolation will slowly turn into excitment about new opportunities...a new lifestyle...and YOU being able to create a new future. Hang in there...I know its lonely and scary now...but having been in your shoes, I wanted to let you know that I promise and guarantee it WILL get better!!!

I know what you mean. I cried every night for like the first 2 weeks when I moved into my new apartment....it was difficult. But when I look back to then....I realized I was just healing when I cried....I was letting out sadness and moving on. The biggest thing was I had to stop dwelling and focusing on getting myself situated. I will never forget moving in. But I will also never forget that time healed me....and it will do the same for you....I promise.

I just did that mid August. It is like a roller coaster of emotions. Everyone tells me how cute this place is but they dont know like we do what if feels like being uprooted out of our home, our marriage and for me the community I had been a part of for 20 years. and i dont think my stbx realizes it nor do I think he cares

Actually I had the opposite reaction. things were in such turmoil with the ex and I that when I moved and got my own place...I finally felt "safe and secure". It took a few days for my household shipment to catch up with me. Until it did I slept on the living room floor in front of the fireplace. I sort of wish I could have set my bed up there.

You will adjust. Really you will.

I remember my first apartment. No roomie, no animals, the couple upstairs having seemingly endless sex, a man in the complex making obscene phone calls to me.

Strangely, that almost sounds inviting right about now! LOL

Hang in there sweet girl. It will get better. You will make that apartment yours and it will be your refuge! Please don't cry, you are making me sad. Margie

This must be your first time living alone? I'm so sorry you are feeling so sad but it will get better. I have been there before. I just moved into my own apartment again. But like courier I am so glad and i feel at peace for the first time in years. At least I have my kids which keep me very busy. But I am so happy not to come home to fighting and don't have to worry about being stolen froma dn abused and basically molested. My kids are much more peacefull and are actually on a routine now. Butt I remember the first time I lived alone. I felt lonely and dejected like I was somekind of reject. During my marriage I was alone all the time. My husbadn didn't sleep with me or do anything with me he would work 7 days a week yet never help with the finances. I used to be very codependent and grew up thinking that someday I would marry a man who would take care of me. The only thing i learned from our marriage was that if I could do everything on my own during our marriage and take care of him his 18 year old son and his 73 year old demented mother then why couldn't i do it on my own without the pain and agravation. You deserve to be be happy.

I know it seems so foreign right now, but just give it a bit...you won't feel so scared and insecure.

It won't be very long before it becomes Home and you feel the security wrap around you when you walk through your door.

I don't know how I will feel my first night "alone" in the new place...probably pretty good, but I have always spent a lot of time alone.

I know what you mean, hotpocket. It WILL get better. You may not think so now, but YOU will. I hated living by myself at first. But, once I got used to it, I LOVED it. I could come & go as I pleased, didn't have to let ANYONE know where I was going, when I was coming home. If I felt like cooking, I cooked, if I didn't I found something that I didn't have to cook, or got me a burger etc. You can have things YOUR way... IT IS ALL YOURS NOW!~! "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" I'm here if you need to talk!~!

I can so relate. I've been in my new place for 6 months and it still feels strange. When my kids are at my place it feels like we are living in someone elses home. When my kids are with their father, I feel alone and sad. I am getting used to my independence but it is definitely an adjustment. I echo the sentiments "that it will get better."