I just stumbled upon this website and hope I can find some support to help me get through this horrible time. My husband whom I have been with for 10 years (anniversary is today actually) and married for almost 3 moved out on Monday. We had our first child in September and I can't believe that he would walk out on not just me but our son. I could tell there was a distance between us during my pregnancy but figured it was just the big life change that was occuring and hoped it would get better with the birth of our son... but it didn't, it actually got worse. Then in early November, he forgot to sign off of his hotmail account, and I found an email from another woman that he was having an emotional affair with. I say emotional only because he swears he did not sleep with her. I nearly lost my mind then, but held it together and after alot of talking he told me he wanted to be with us and make it work but that he was not happy and was not in love with me. We tried divorce busters and just doing things we used to do as a couple and I thought it was moving in the right direction. The last month however I have been miserable because there was absolutely no emotion from him and he was going out all the time. Finally on Sunday I confronted him and he finally admitted that he is still not happy and can't fake it anymore and wants out. So, this time I got so angry and told him to pack his stuff and go... and he did. I have never felt loneliness like I feel now. We have such a great life together, financially secure, beautiful home and we do get along like peas in a pod.. I can't understand what happened to him. I asked him to come to marriage counselling with me and he won't, instead he is talking to a counsellor about separation. He has been here everyday since he left to shower and see the baby which makes it so much harder because I feel like he is coming here for me when I know that isn't true. The other day he gave me a hug like he hasn't given me in a very long time but I couldn't tell if it was because he was worried about me or if it was because he missed me. Now today, I had to drop my son off to him to spend the night and I just feel like I am about to lose it. All I can do is try to give him space and pray that he realizes what he is doing, and comes back and want to make it work ... but what are the chances of that? Has anyone had this happen? How do I move on, if I could cut him out of my life it would be easier I think but I am so worried about my son and growing up with divorced parents .. it isn't fair and he is the love of my life and I don't want to lose him .. I don't know what to do... please help :(
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