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This is the journal that I just finished writing. I wanted to share it with the rest of the community, instead of just my friends that would read it. Thank you for your time and hopefully support. My life is just about to get turned upside down.
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Dammit I hate that woman. With the red hot intensity of 1000 suns. How dare she accuse me of calling my daughter and upsetting her. I am trying to calm her down and reassure her that she will be ok flying by herself. Giving her my promise that I will be at the airport waiting for her. I want her to know that I love her and want her, unlike how she says her mother feels about her. I am so pissed off right now that I could literally spit nails. I want to get my baby here and do not EVER want her to go back to that heartless, self centered slut. Her brains moved down between her legs two years ago. She only has three things she cares about, herself, her wine nights with her OM, the OM and her precious Weight Watchers. She lost her weight for her, found her OM and threw away a family. Ok, we did a good impression of dysfunctional sometimes, but we were a family. That miserable conceited bitch. I wish so much that there was a way that I could hurt her as much as she has taken pleasure in hurting me. She had the gall to tell my daughter that she doesn't hold a grudge against me. But R asked her mother why she hasn't let me see R for over a year. I'm really sorry folks, but for the people that complain about every other week or two weeks need to try going 370+ days with out seeing their baby. My son lives with me and I love him and will do absolutely anything for him to, but my daughter is the other half of my heart that has been dying for over a year now. Dammit I hate that woman. I am going to do what ever I have to, to get custody of my baby now. Since she lives by the beach in south Texas, she can take a flying leap at a sand dune and I hope that she lands on a bunch of jelly fish. I gues that I am finally joining the majority of the group that wonders how stbx's can change so much.
Hello. My name is Alan and I am about to start going through what will be a very ugly divorce. Wish me luck. I'm going to need it.
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Dammit I hate that woman. With the red hot intensity of 1000 suns. How dare she accuse me of calling my daughter and upsetting her. I am trying to calm her down and reassure her that she will be ok flying by herself. Giving her my promise that I will be at the airport waiting for her. I want her to know that I love her and want her, unlike how she says her mother feels about her. I am so pissed off right now that I could literally spit nails. I want to get my baby here and do not EVER want her to go back to that heartless, self centered slut. Her brains moved down between her legs two years ago. She only has three things she cares about, herself, her wine nights with her OM, the OM and her precious Weight Watchers. She lost her weight for her, found her OM and threw away a family. Ok, we did a good impression of dysfunctional sometimes, but we were a family. That miserable conceited bitch. I wish so much that there was a way that I could hurt her as much as she has taken pleasure in hurting me. She had the gall to tell my daughter that she doesn't hold a grudge against me. But R asked her mother why she hasn't let me see R for over a year. I'm really sorry folks, but for the people that complain about every other week or two weeks need to try going 370+ days with out seeing their baby. My son lives with me and I love him and will do absolutely anything for him to, but my daughter is the other half of my heart that has been dying for over a year now. Dammit I hate that woman. I am going to do what ever I have to, to get custody of my baby now. Since she lives by the beach in south Texas, she can take a flying leap at a sand dune and I hope that she lands on a bunch of jelly fish. I gues that I am finally joining the majority of the group that wonders how stbx's can change so much.
Hello. My name is Alan and I am about to start going through what will be a very ugly divorce. Wish me luck. I'm going to need it.
deleted_user
Good luck Alan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during the difficult days ahead.
JudM
I'm sorry your going through this. If she is a bad mom then I say do it. I feel so for the children.
deleted_user
Vent away, someone will listen here. God Bless you & your babies.
deleted_user
Alan, you express you self really well - a bit angry perhaps... but you can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it. You can figure this one out, you have to look at it from a complete different angle. Anger can be good because it makes you take action now move away from the anger and start thinking about it in a different light. Look to others for advise on unwinding the puzzle and slowly you'll figure it out. no one wants war in a divorce especially when there are innocent children involved. Keep trying Alan. Good luck - I think your a smart guy.
BeckyK
I am sorry you are going through this. It is doubly hard on the children! I feel for your whole family! I know you will not let your children see you hatred for their Mother, it will damage them more than you know. I am so thankful to my Father for not saying a negative word about my Mother. I know it took a lot for him to keep that to himself, but it was my salvation.
deleted_user
Doesn't it feel good to vent?... especially with people who can truly understand that anger and frustration! I enjoy reading some of the venting because I realize that I'm not alone in my feelings too. Thanks for being open. I do need to toss in my two cents when I say that the anger needs to be tempered when it comes to decisions regarding your child/children. You described your daughter being your other half of your heart. Your children also have two halves to their hear. And...even in disfunctional families their self-esteem is tied into BOTH parents. Go for custody if that is healthy for the child, but do it with eyes wide open that you are dealing with a child's other half of their heart too when you fight.
deleted_user
Good luck. We'll help all that we can. But I agree with others. Watch that anger. It can overtake your good judgement.
deleted_user
I appreciate the dads out there who actually care. I hope you can get beyond the bitterness and do what is best for your daughter. Letting her know you love her is number 1. She needs that. If she has had only her mother for a whole year, be very careful about how you approach that whole situation. Good luck.
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