Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello I am a mother of a 10 yr old and 7 yr old, so called dh and I were living apart for about 11 days until he made his way back into the house with his petty excuses that the house he was staying at needs to be rented out. Bottom line he is a chicken little and cant care for himself, I had bought him small but nice things nothing big, he buys me nothing. now I just found out the account that his father of whom so called dh works for hired an accountant to pay off our joint debt into one loan so we just pay household bills and one credit card for urgent reasons only. I also found out that so called dh has an account set up for himself with my name not on it, but the accountant wants to set up a joint account for our household bills with both of our names on it, Ok I don't get it, why does so called dh need an account in just his name and then a joint account with my name on it used for household bills only. I said the heck with that I am going back to work I will work my butt off to open my own darn account and I will take care of the children, screw him and he has his own account that his rich father wants him to have, I get the short end of the stick, so we will split the bills in half and he will pay for child care considering he made me leave my job in the past, I am so angry and upset right now that I cant even begin to tell you, I think he is putting me in a place where he wants me and I don't think so, I will do it on my own, we will seek outside help but I will do it own my own with out his sorry butt. Why does he need an account in just his name and then a joint account in both of our names for just household bills, sounds and stinks to me. What do you think, Dont worry I got my walls up!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
You raise some good questions - ones that need to be addressed. A lot of couples use this system but it is agreed upon jointly. I suspect your husband and/or his father is trying to keep something from you. I know your profile said you were trying to work things out but be careful that they aren't trying to manipulative your assets to your husband's benefit. That is something people often do right before they announce they want a divorce.
Had to chuckle at Glenn's question about what DH means..women often use this to talk about there husbands (DS -dear son, DD-Dear daughter) on other forums. of course, Glenn would have no way of knowing this. On this forum we refer to our spouses as STBX - soon to be ex and D means divorce. :)