Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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AAAAARRRRRGH! I refuse to engage in his B.S. anymore! If his truck broke down....too f***ing bad! He can ask one of his party buddies or bar 'hos to taxi him around. I've been giving him rides the past two days and all that I've gotten in return is verbal abuse and manipulation.
He asked if I would give him a ride to my daughter's band concert tonight (he hasn't attended any in the past year!). Oh, I soooooo didn't want to, but my daughter wanted him to be there. After I dropped her off at the school I picked him up. All I heard was snide comments and name calling ("You're miserable!" and "You're nuts!") all the while my 7 year old son was in the back seat! I asked that he lay off and he just continued. So I dropped them off at the concert and told him that I would be back at 9 to pick them up....I wouldn't be going. I know my daughter will understand. She knew how upset I was earlier today as a result of his verbal abuse.
UGH! I don't want to drive him back home with him bashing me in front of my children. I swear to God that if he starts in on me I WILL MAKE A SCENE and make him walk! No way am I going to have my children think that verbal abuse should be tolerated!
Wish me luck!!
He asked if I would give him a ride to my daughter's band concert tonight (he hasn't attended any in the past year!). Oh, I soooooo didn't want to, but my daughter wanted him to be there. After I dropped her off at the school I picked him up. All I heard was snide comments and name calling ("You're miserable!" and "You're nuts!") all the while my 7 year old son was in the back seat! I asked that he lay off and he just continued. So I dropped them off at the concert and told him that I would be back at 9 to pick them up....I wouldn't be going. I know my daughter will understand. She knew how upset I was earlier today as a result of his verbal abuse.
UGH! I don't want to drive him back home with him bashing me in front of my children. I swear to God that if he starts in on me I WILL MAKE A SCENE and make him walk! No way am I going to have my children think that verbal abuse should be tolerated!
Wish me luck!!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
He cried as I drove him back to his apartment (kids were in the back seat). Can you say M-A-N-I-P-U-L-A-T-I-O-N? At least he waited until the last two minutes of the ride before he started in on the snide comments again!
He had the audacity to call me 20 minutes later and left a voice mail message asking me to drive him to work in the morning--LOL! He MUST be high! What kind of fool does he think I am?
Is he an alcoholic by any chance?
I shut my phone off for the night and I'm not going to return his call. It's about time that he starts taking responsibility for his life.
The fact that he always needs a ride indicates either A: he lost his license to DWI, or B: he knows he is a drunk and shouldn't drive. Either way do not let him be just as dependant on you as he is the booze. I went down that road and it's not an easy one.
The verbal and emotional abuse is terrible, and I can relate. You have to just be strong, and if you need to change your phone number, do it. He will never change until he puts the bottle down, and he will never put the bottle down as long as he can depend on you.
You need to start setting boundaries about what you will and will not tolerate. If he doesn't get some counseling for his verbal abusiveness, then you need to have as little contact with him as possible. If he is verbally abusive in front of the children,I would have a judge address his problem.
Life is too short for all this nonsense. I don't know about you, but I have about reached my limit. We deserve better than this.
Hope things work out and he shapes up.