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Need to scream!!!

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Once again we spent the evening arguing, trying to decide if we should go on together or call it quits. She won't commit to either and it's driving me crazy (literally). I want to save the marriage but this mess is making me nuts. I know if I force the issue I'll lose everything including my children and yet if I don't, I think I'll lose my mind!!! The crazy thing is that nothing was really resolved but she wanted to have sex. AHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Vegas sounds like a great idea right about now.
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I am sorry you are going through this. How would you lose everything including the kids by forcing the issue. It can't be good for them to be around the tension and so you are trying to end that part of it.
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True, but I love being with them everyday. It will be very hard to give up the normalcy of family life. They are very young 1 and 4 so luckily they've been spared most of the tension.
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I hope things work out for you. Take your time and give her a little space. Hopefully she just needs a little time to figure things out.
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inpain, first off, I am SO sorry that you are going through this.

I will tell you this though, arguing will NOT get either of you ANYWHERE, nor is it healthy for either of you & the kids. The KIDS do NOT need to be in the middle of this or hear you two arguing. They are going through enough with the break-up, that they don't need to hear all the other "stuff". If SHE does not want to commit to the marriage/breakup, I feel it's best that YOU decide what is BEST for YOU & YOUR KIDS.

I know you have the feeling that you will lose "everything," but you will NOT!~! It is NOT going to be easy by any means, but YOU will get through this!~!
I wish you the best of luck!~! "Keep Your Chin UP!~!" I'm here if you need to talk!~! ((((((((inpain))))))
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Going through EXACT same thing with husband as you are with your wife. Want to trust him but hard after he had an affair for 2 months this past summer, which is now over. We are still having sex, and it is intense, but he won't commit one way or another after putting our divorce that was filed back in June on hold. I'm happy one minute, sad the next, totally depressed the next. Ready to commit myself!
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