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I am not so brave after all. I want to cry right now and thought I would ask for support from my DS friends.

Tonight was the first time that I saw stbx and OW up close. I don't know if I can handle this. Tomorrow our daughter is having a recital and a few weeks ago I told stbx that he could feel free to bring OW and her boys b/c they are part of my childrens' lives. And I am trying to make this transition as smooth as possible for my children.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want stbx back and OW had nothing to do with us breaking up. But I just don't know if I can handle this like I thought I could. I am still grieving the dream, you know!

Please pray for me and send me some love! I REALLY NEED IT.
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I'm sorry. Just an FYI, you need time--it has nothing to do with the OW, or your desire to have your X back. It's memories of the way you were. Can you ask him not to bring the OW? If not, take someone to support you to the recital!
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Please pray for me and send me some love! I REALLY NEED IT.

Will do :)
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i'm crying for you right now..so you be strong. if you can, remember that this is for the kids, and i agree with alone, bring a friend with you!
wish i could be there for you for support. HUGS!
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Oh crap that IS so damn hard. Huge gigantic comforting hugs!!
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I know how you are feeling I had to go thru it too. You will put on a brave face for the kids and when you get a moment to yourself after you will hurt but it is all part of the moving forward process. Keep strong
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You can and will handle things and get through it because you love your children. I commend you for trying to make it easier for them even though it hurts really badly. I agree with alone, take someone with you too. I will keep you in my thoughts.
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My mom who is my comic relief will be there with me tomorrow so I don't have to face it alone.
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I found this Strength Prayer today.....thought Id share it with you now...
My Lord God, through whom strength is made perfect in weakness, I pray to you, give me the strength I need.
You have said, that to your children who have no might, you will increase strength. I am weak. Bless me with a measure of strength, as may be sufficient for me.

When I am tempted by evil, deliver me, by granting me the power to overcome it. When my daily work is too hard for me, give me the strength to be able to do it.

If my burden oppresses me beyond my bearing, lighten my load, that my strength may be equal to it.

You have helped many, I beg you to help me.

Thank you my Lord.

Amen.
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i think you should just feel so proud of yourself by knowing that you're showing the kids how to handle the "stuff" that life throws at us. you are stronger than you think. keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...
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I'll pray for you...bring a friend or another family member with you tomorrow..you need some physical support. If no one will go with you, don't sit by your stbx and OW....not even in eye shot...it's about your daughter...only she matters.
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Oh Mary I am so sorry. It always seems like something has to happen. I thought I could handle having my stbx at dinner out with the family, it was just too much. I am glad you mom will be there with you. The dream was there in your life a long time. My prayers are with you.
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OMG,, you are a good mother!!! I know this is hard for you! I am sending you all the hugs I have left for the day! Sorry other DS'ers.. she really needs them!
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(((Hugs))) It is wonderful that your mom will be able to go with you. I wish you Strength.
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oh honey, your going to do just fine, your a brave couragious person, your giving something wonderful to your children. you can handle this. your strong. and yes we are all grieving the dream of what we thought we had or what could have been, when in reality when all is said and done and we are past the heartache and sadness, we're all gonna think, what the hell was i thinking. good luck. (((hugs)))
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You all just don't know what your support means to me right now. I'm trying to hold on. I really am. Thank you so much for lifting me up.
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