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NEED some serious help here

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deleted_user
any ideas? please read jurnal entry..this bites the BIG one!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
What help would you like?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Going to read now - BRB
deleted_user
deleted_user
I just read your journal. It seems there would be someone in the military that could help you. I am so sorry for what is happening.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry for the way he spoke to you. You need to do what you feel is best for your son. I know this is going to sound insanely simple, and I wouldn't blame for getting pissed off at me for saying it, but next time, just hang up the phone. Say goodbye, and hang up the phone. After 15 mins, maybe a bit more, I usually can tell when my convo with my EX is going to get us nowhere, and I hang up.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
eeeeeeekkkkkkkk!.. you better get a lawyer and get some clarification about this now... I mean.. if there is a genuine concern for the childs safety you better get on this now.

Since you too are both still the parents your Spouse still has the right to go anywhere with the child.
Until there is some legal ruling and custody is settled you can not prevent him from being with the child.

see a lawyer.
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Hold your ground - DO NOT let him take your son. DO serve him when/if he is not on a mission. he can use the soldiers and sailors relief act to get off the hook on EVERYTHING - all my stbx had to do was have his lawyer lie about him being deployed and the judge gave him what he wanted - I am SICK of all this soldier worship BS
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I'm sure lots of millitary people get divorced with little or no troubles. Sounds like a smoke screen.
In my opinion you've made the right decision, now follow it through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it really is sickening....
deleted_user
deleted_user
If he takes your son he could keep him and declare residency in another state and file for divorce there. if you don't move there and respond from there he has a lot better chance of getting full custody- DO NOT let him take him.
deleted_user
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jlk, I was a Navy wife for over 25 years. Military cannot simply declare residency in another state all that easily. Military service members have a "state of residency" and their "state of record" or home state. The real problem arises if they transfer to a new state of residency.
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The Soldiers and Sailors act protects him from legal actions taken while he is "deployed" or on "missions". You need to find an attorney that is well versed not only in family law but with the nuances of the laws that apply Military members.
patti22
patti22
My heart is with you, sounds like it is very hard.
deleted_user
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Do you have a special or possibly even a general power of attorney from him?
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I am not sure what state you are in but I find it hard to beleve that there is any law that without a proper parenting plan in place, you have to give him to him to take out of state. with all the blaming it sounds like maanipulation as well as verbal abuse. Im with mary hang up the phone, contact legal services in your area and get some paperwork that gives you legal custudy of your son. You dont have to listen to that kind of abusive talk.
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