Hey, everyone! I need some advice on something. My ex and I have been divorced since March. It was a mutual decision to divorce. I didn't want him to try to control me anymore, and he wanted me to do everything his way or the highway. We have a 5-year-old daughter together. Our daughter is very close to me and doesn't want to do a lot of stuff with him unless I am around, too. I had been trying to be his friend and stuff by going over and playing cards sometimes with him and his roommate and doing some outings with them as long as my ex's roommate and daughter went along. But the problem is that we also go to the same church and see each other there, too. It causes us to be around each other too much which leads to arguing because all those things about him that I didn't like and wanted to get away from come up and vice versa. So now I have decided to distance myself from him more and not hang out with him and his roommate like I was. Now I will just see him at church or when he sees our daughter. Well, he's all mad about that because he says that it's causing him not to see his daughter as much because she really doesn't like to go off with him unless I go. He says that I have to be his friend because of her. My opinion is that I don't have to be his friend but do need to be friendly when I see him. He now also has a woman that he is seeing, and I don't think she really would want the ex-wife hanging around as much as he wants me to be around for "the sake of our daughter" as he puts it. Am I wrong to try to separate myself from him? I want to have my own life independent of him, but he seems to want to force me to his bosom buddy. I just don't want to do that. Love to hear some opinions on this. Thanks!
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