Be careful sweety! I cannot get into his mind for you, as much as I would like to, but, I am afraid for you!
Big Hugs and I am here for you!

I have been guilty of agreeing to go eat with my stbx... even went to a movie, but this was with him and my daughters. I learned that it was encouraging him and had to stop.

I can't say what he is thinking, but know that I just wanted to try and be friends with stbx and felt guilty for saying no to him. Just be careful and possibly wait for him to be the one to ask.

if you don't contact him - call him or see him you will know whether he wants to try because he will contact you and ask. I am sorry you are going through this. I am in the same boat, except mine tells people he wants to reconcile and that he loves me and it is a lie - one that i fell for and paid a terrible price for - just more heartache. Just stay away and if he wants to come back he will. If he doesn't he won't.

Sounds to me like he is willing to go out for a movie with you out of pity. He sees you are having a hard time and still in love with him and he isn't comfortable with just leaving you alone. he feels obligated to you because he married you. he wants out, but he wants to help you through the tough time.

Don't read into it too much, and my other advice to you is to stop relying on him. Stop turning to him. You need to find a new outlet. New Friends.

It sounds like you are treading in dangerous waters. He may know you want to work this out, but going out may be his only concession to you. I don't want you to be hurt all over again.

Be honest, tell him that you want to remain friends with the hope of reconciliation and see if he still agrees.

I think jlkrjl is right. I've found it difficult to decipher the meaning of my STBX's words, but his actions have been very clear. Look at what he DOES.

Does he call YOU? Email you? txt you out of the blue, or only in response to your efforts at communication?

take it slow and careful. You have made some progress and you should keep that in mind. I so wish you a happy ending in this but I also dont want to see you get more hurt, just take it slow and careful.

I agree..be careful. Don't get your hopes up too high. I would just hate it very much if you were to get hurt...again. Do the date, but beware.

Thank you so much for all the advice. I agree with all. I know you are so right but it is so difficult to get my head around it sigh!
Love you all. Thank you.

Alex he may be trying to let you down gently but if he is not making an effort you need to back of and let him make the first move. Sting has that sappy song about if you some one set them free. Set him free and if he wants to come back he will, but it has to be his choice and if you keep chasing him he will never come back. I know its hard but that is usually the way it works my friend.

Since you are willing?...just play it by ear. Be true to yourself and trust your instincs.

JMO, but sounds like he still has some degree of emotional attachment to you(you are still technically his wife) and he cares for you but he doesn't love you like a husband should. My guess is that he is doing this out of guilt and to appease you. Be careful, I could be dead wrong but if he is firm on ending the marriage then its unlikely that a simple dinner or movie night will change his mind. In fact by remaining emotionally attached you are hurting yourself, he may be ready and willing to be friends but if you still want to be his wife then this is probably not something you are ready for. It seems that already you have allowed yourself to hope, even after what he told you so be careful and don't get your hopes up....not trying to be a debbie downer just looking out for you.

I agree with the other. he could just feeling guilty and trying to be nice to you . be careful as if things didnt meet your expectation you will get hurt again. Let him call you first and go quite on him and see what will be his reaction. Good luck. And take care.