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My husband and I have not spoken for 3 weeks. I've been in contact with his mom, just to make sure he is doing ok and what he is supposed to so he can make payments to me. I think his mom is really having a hard time accepting what her son has done and what an ass he is being. I've been working hard to pick up the pieces and keep myself sane. She sent me an email today about a marriage retreat weekend in January. Now hear comes the question. It is 3,000 miles away, we would have to fly together, stay together and be together for that entire time. Even if he would be willing to go, which he probably won't, should I go. I don't know anymore. I don't know if I want to put myself out there, just to get hurt again, but at the same time I would like to say I've done all I can to try and save it. But I'm not sure I want to save it anymore. Any opinions?
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Pull the retreat up on computer and find a closer location. But it would be pointless if you already know you dont want it to work. His mom sounds nice.
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Your mother-in-law is kind and is trying to help. A retreat sounds intense. I don't know the particulars of your situation so that makes it more difficult to advise you.

If there is any chance that your relationship can be put together, should be put together, and that you could have a good life together then definitely try some kind of counseling whether it is the retreat or something else.

What was the cause of your break up? Do you have kids?
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I agree with the thought that a retreat away from home is an awfully big first step. I would see if he would be willing to commit to some weekly couples counseling, where you can go to your separate residences afterwards. If that seems to be going well, then you might consider a retreat. It is sweet that your mil is trying to support you, but be careful there... She may be helping out of her own desire to see the family unit stay in tact, and not ulitmately what's best for you, ya know? Good luck!!
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Bert55, he has an affair and eventhough I was willing to work it out he told me he was not in love with me anymore and walked out. We have been together a total of 11 years and been married 4. I just can't keep getting hurt.
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