I am 2 months out of a marriage that has been failing for years. I kept hanging on, fighting for our family to stay together. I have kicked him out several times because he was putting himself in front of us all the time. Whether he couldn't keep himself from spending his paycheck before we could pay bills, or buying pot, or staying out too late and too often fishing, hunting, or hanging with the guys. It was always about what he wants, what he needs. He is from the coast and hated the "valley", always blaming and resenting me for standing in his way of his dream of becoming a professional surfer. I always let him back in because he always promised to get it together, to change the way he was living. He would for a while, but then it would go back to the same stuff. We were engaged before the pregnancy and I told him he could walk, but Iwas keeping the baby (he said he wasn't ready). He decided to stay and then 15 months after the first one was born, the second was born. My husband was 22. He has lost so many jobs in his trade that I don't even know if he could get another job here even if he wanted to stay here for the kids despite ending our marriage. So he lives in his home town of Crescent City where he has picked up a new girlfriend. So, basically, I want to know how the hell a man moves on so fast? I did end the marriage and I did file for divorce, but I just didn't think he would just pick up and move on so fast. I mean, did I not mean anything at all? Things were bad, but we always hung on for the love between us and the children. We always knew we weren't soulmates. We always knew there was prob someone else out there for each of us that we could be happier with. But still, how can he move on? I can't. I can't really even think of it even though I was done with him. I don't want him back, but I am so hurt that he can move on so easily. Anyone out there know how men can do this?
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