Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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My husband left me 6 weeks ago but he has been around every day since. He's currently in another city and is coming back in two days with a decision as to whether he wants to come back and give it another go or get himself a flat and settled and have at least 6 months apart.
My problem is this: I don't think I want him back now. I was devastated when he left but now all I can see is that his lifestyle is very different from mine. I have MS and live pretty healthy whereas he hangs out with people who like to drink a lot, party a lot and snort cocaine etc. I've always said I'd give it another go if he wanted to try again but I'm not sure now.
Do you guys think i should stick to my word if he wants to come back and try again or is it ok to say I want the 6 month break?
My problem is this: I don't think I want him back now. I was devastated when he left but now all I can see is that his lifestyle is very different from mine. I have MS and live pretty healthy whereas he hangs out with people who like to drink a lot, party a lot and snort cocaine etc. I've always said I'd give it another go if he wanted to try again but I'm not sure now.
Do you guys think i should stick to my word if he wants to come back and try again or is it ok to say I want the 6 month break?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
but they need to WANT to.
LNR - tough call. My advice is to do what YOU need to do to keep yourself safe.
I agree with alittleconfused. To write someone off without a chance of redemption is a little cold.
If he drinks too much and won't deal with it and, worse, hangs around antisocial lawbreakers who do cocaine, you do have very different values and lifestyles there. When love gets worn at the edges, values and interests remain.