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Sorry family of DS...I NEED you this morning. I am so unbelieveably depressed. I think this is my alltime low. Here it is 3:16 am and I can't sleep. Had to take off early from work yesterday. Stbx went to his sister's house and told her of our divorce. She told him that I was being vindictive in settlement. (all I'm asking is for 1/2 of what I am entitled too including 1/2 equity in house at time of sale) Lawyer had told me that I am being "way too nice". I'm not even asking for alimony. Then stbx said his sister wanted to know about his GF. As close as I thought I was to my in-laws, (they always considered me a sister rather than an in-law) Doesn't she know he was cheating on me? Hard to tell what she was told, but I won't call her to ask. After being in the family for 31 years, you'd think she would KNOW me better.
I feel so alone, so very alone. My chest is hurting and I know it is anxiety. I'm going to call someone later in the morning re: counseling.
I need a hug, I need a shoulder to cry on, I need prayers. I'm so afraid to be alone right now, however my cats are right next to me.
Please help me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yea well I can't sleep either... its hard. But you just need to slow down take a deep breth and relax.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I think it's smart that you're calling for counseling later this morning. It helps me. I'm really glad that you're here too talking on DS. This site has been a Godsend. A lot of what you've said reminds me of myself. It's interesting, my mother-in-law used the same word "vindictive" to describe me. My stbx also cheated on me and is "in love" with the OW. I e-mailed and told my mother-in-law about her son's cheating and. She recently e-mailed me a couple of e-mails bitching me out for my "vindictive behavior" because I wouldn't give her son my bank account numbers and because I told some of my family about his adultery. She said something like not that it justifies it, but her son was unhappy for a long time, why did I wait so long to get help for my emotional issues? That really bothered me too - I thought my mother-in-law cared about me. How could she be so mean when her son is the one who cheated? Also, my stbx, the OW and my mother-in-law definitely have some serious emotional issues, so it's pretty bad that they think I have to 'get help' in order to stay married and have a faithful husband when they don't live by that same standard themselves.

Anyway, I totally understand what you're going through with the in-laws. They're being swayed by blood and probably by half-truths from your stbx. It's not you honey. You're being very nice and not at all vindictive. There's nothing remotely vindictive about your behavior.

I need a friend too. I'd love to give you a hug. I don't suppose you live anywhere near southern wisconsin? I have a cat too btw. I'm sorry you're going through all this too. You're a really lovable, kind person and you don't have to be alone in this. God loves you and there's always friends and DS and counselors.

Father,

I pray that you put your arms around journey and comfort her. Send people into her life to help her through this time. Please heal her anxiety and bring her a new hope. Be there for her and carry her through this. Amen.
Thriver
Thriver
Don't pay any attention to his family. Who knows what lies they have heard. They have to deal with him in the future, so they may have just decided to be on his side for that reason.
You think you know people.
patti22
patti22
I spend many sleepless nights too. It's hard but this site has been great. And your lawyer may be right, I'd ask for Some alimony, even if you don't want as much as you can get. Then if you change your mind later, you'll be able to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not alone,It still hits me so hard at times. That feeling is hardest at night for me. Stay strong it gets easier as you learn coping skills from your counselor.
deleted_user
deleted_user
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuxS-9t3tnY&feature=related

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deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh man. I have been there. My ex played the major victim and I wanted to call his whole family nad say I left bc he was beating me since we got home from the honeymoon. What good would it do really. If you know you are being fair or more than fair then don't worry what others think. It all comes out in the end. You are never alone. Please know that you are so much more than what someone elses opinion of you is. And if she didn't get to know you better than this in 31 years, count yourself as lucky she is out of your life. Hugs!
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