As many of you may know, my x has chosen not to exercise visitation with his two kids, daughter who's almost 15 and son who just turned 13. His girlfriend lost custody of her two kids a couple of years ago and has had supervised visitation with a few brief periods of unsupervised visitation allowed to her due to her PROVEN drug use and incapability to remain a clean, fit mother. As a matter of fact, she recently lost PERMANENT custody of her boys (5 and 8, I think). As a result, she is unable to be in the company of my kids at all...for any reason. Since she cannot be around then, x isn't. He has only exercised visitation one time since our separation and violated the court order barring gf from meeting them. X actually had the nerve to whine to his mother (who loves me and the kids thank goodness) on xmas eve that he had been trying to call the kids on their cell phones for days and they won't return his calls. They've had cell phones forever and he NEVER calls...why would he think they would be jumping to answer his calls anyway. Well, I ask the kids...son had lost his phone 2 weeks ago and was afraid to tell me...long story short, we find the phone and he had 2 messages from his dad. Daughter says that she accidentally answered the phone when he called from her uncles...she thought it was her cousin. He wanted to know her xmas schedule and she told him that she was doing whatever I did. I checked her phone...he called ONCE from his phone and once from his brother's. Anyway I tell them that one of them must call...finally got son to send him a text from my phone (???) detailing their xmas plans. No word from him at all. On Thursday, I ask son to call him...be the better person...yayaya. He does and then tells me that dad said that they can do something on Saturday (yep, that would be today) and to keep calling him (!!!). So son calls dad today, no answer...and it's after 6 pm and no return call. How in the world can a parent do this and act this way to their child??? I just do not understand him...trying to keep in mind that this is the same person who will not return his son's hunting rifle (xmas present last year) or his dirtbike (birthday present a couple years ago). JERK!!!!
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