got married to my gf of around 1yr. She promised me all the
things i wanted from a wife, stay at home, cook, clean,
laundry as long as i pay the bills. good old fashioned nuclear
family stuff. She never followed through. I got a bit distant
and withdrawn, even flat out told here why i was having
problems, woud up flirting around online, nothing serious
never meeting anyone, all the while hoping my wife would come
around, realize i wasnt asking much and get off the couch. I kept working,
trying to pay the bills which would get left laying about the unkempt house
and keep her happy with a car, and gas money, and concert money and going out
with her friends money to the point that by the end i was working 2 jobs, and
not having much time for my friends or to even do anything.
She didnt work 90% of the time and when she did she
inevitably had problems with her bosses expectations. Finally
she asks if one of her female friends can move in. sure no
prob, i'm a nice guy help someone out. she cheats on me with her friend
(i didnt know at the time). we get back from a planned acation with some
friends and she tells me shes leaving me at the end of the week, stays here till then,
takes the car and asks me for gas money to go with.

now shes trying to get ahold of me and telling me the car has problems and shes broke
and telling me i'm not being civil about the situation because i wont dig her out.

i know i'm no hero here, i screwed up a bit but honeslty isnt that a bit much?
i dont know what to do or who to talk to or where to go. i just need some support
i guess... i feel like crap, i feel a bit used, but i also feel bad because i dont want to help her too...
i'm so damn confused right now and its driving me nuts in a literal sense