I discovered this.... I am better off with NO friends. They only lead to me being hurt and disappointed. I have no time for that. Sorry if that sounds very negative, but i am just fine with NO friends at all. I figure that friends were for high school and I am way past that now. I don't need any.

Do you really need to have negative people like that in your life right now??? WOW. It's kind of sad Michelle that she doesn't seem to understand your needs. How important is this friendship? Will it matter 5 years from now? I don't know. Sometimes I think we read more into things when we are struggling with so many different emotions.

I have lost many friends myself. The couple that I do have left are very understanding because they are going through similar situations or have gone through it. So when we get together we all talk about what is on our minds and offer each other advice and support.

Jen I am so sorry you feel that way. My friends are so wonderful to me. You just need to find those that are real. also Michelle real friends don't question your motive, they just are there for each other. I have found through the years that being a friend for someone means you take them for what they are, the good with the bad.

She really does sound kinda Junior Highish. We can get enough immaturity from our ex's and stbx's. We don't need it from our friends too

both of you are wrong. 2 wrongs never make a right. my best friend & i have know each other 25, almost 26 years. we fight sometimes like cats & dogs...but we ALWAYS love each other. take the higher road. apolozige. tell her you have been in your own head alot & may not have noticied where she was.

she's wrong for not calling you...you're wrong for not calling her. if she really is your friend and you really hers, you will forgive each other, reach out to each other and it will be fine.

and i completely disagree with jendavids...i am so way past high school...approaching 28 years past...but having NO friends???? not an option for me. everyone needs someone.

My few friends have been AMAZING! I have been so blessed. My best friend does not even mind me talking about this ALL THE TIME although I have cooled it. And my friends have told me don't hesitate to call even in the middle of the night which I've never done even though I've needed to before DS of course.

I'm sorry your friend is not more understanding.

I had to post this article I just read today. I think it might help you in your situation with your friends. Boy, did I see alot of myself here!

Divorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways to Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. and Block Your Calls

Now, let's be clear about one thing. If you are going through a divorce, I absolutely understand that this is a very trying time in your life.

You deserve to have a huge amount of sympathy and hand-holding from your friends and loved ones. In fact, it's my guess that most of the people around you genuinely would like to be there for you as much as they can and offer as much emotional support as is humanly possible.

Having said that, there are certain things that you can do that will absolutely ensure that your family and friends will cringe when they hear your voice and will be calling the phone company a.s.a.p to install caller I.D.!

1. Assume that you have cornered the market on suffering! If you go forward with the mind-set that you are the only one with worries and therefore are entitled to monopolize every conversation, do not be surprised if you get the answering machine, instead of your friends.

2. Do not pay any attention to events or occasions in your loved one's lives. Do not follow-up if you know they've been ill or have had personal problems. If something good has happened to them (such as a new romance, a promotion, a new house, etc.), everyone understands that it might be too much for you to call to congratulate them or send a card. After all, it's depressing for you to see someone else happy and the conversation just might be too painful!

3. Use your phone calls as a forum to recount every blasted injustice from your "ex." Make sure to provide lots of juicy details and be sure to portray your ex at his/her lowest. Elaborate on your ex's short-comings and insist that your friends agree with you whole-heartedly. Make it clear that it is unacceptable for them to agree with your ex on any account, and you are expecting undivided loyalty.

4. Drop your kids off regularly for them to babysit. Do not offer to reciprocate the favor. After all, you have a lot on your head. It would be unreasonable for them to expect to burden you with too much. If they dare to comment that you have not been paying enough attention to your family, you have every right to remind them of their own parenting mistakes and indiscretions.

5. Ask your friend's spouse to do special errands or favors for you. After all, you don't have the support of a partner of the opposite sex, and there are some jobs you can not do by yourself. Your friends should be secure enough in their marriages not to be threatened if you spend excessive time alone with their spouses.

6. Show up unannounced to their home with a steady stream of dates, even if you know that you will not be seeing this person again. Do not care if their kids are at home. If their kids barrage them with a million questions, heck, that's their problem.

7. Discuss every sordid detail of your divorce, your dating life and sex life, no matter who else is present or what else is going on. Again, if their children or neighbors are present, you should not be expected to edit your conversations. You can't help it if "little ears" or prying neighbors are hanging onto every detail. They should mind their own business.

Well, of course there are many other situations that might have a similar effect. It doesn't matter, does it? Make sure to follow the above scenarios and you should be sure to have antagonized every person who has ever tried to be there for you at this difficult time!

Women are high maintenance... just ask any guy that's gone on a date with a girl and then didn't call within the acceptable length of time. This the why I prefer guy friends. You can neglect them for a while, but then when you finally do call them, they're happy to hear from you instead of "pissy".

You will have to ask yourself a few things, it will be hard for you to do.

If you want ANYONE in your life to want to be around you, you must set aside your mood, or what ever it is you call it.

People do not want to be around others who are mean, even if your going through hard times it is much easier to be with others than alone.

SO ask yourself am I easy to be around, is this worth holding yourself back from others.

Maturity is hard but you will want many people in your life and to do this you will need to not burn bridges, nor shut down others even if they are PISSY, be the bigger person and say I miss our friendship and want to be part of your life can we put some of this aside and move forward from this place. MAKE NICE AND HAVE FRIENDS.

I don't know what is up with your friend but we all deal with things differently. Some are better at dealing then others. You have to make allowances for that and if you still want to have people in your life you have to be available to them. The last thing you need right now is to spend a lot of time alone if you have friends who are calling you, you need to talk to them or call them back. Your having a bad time and you not exactly at your best either so roll with the kitten fights and prepare yourself for the bigger more serious battles that are to come. You can never have to many friends, friends a like chances you are always going to be taking at least one.

Thanks for all the great advice. It is appreciated.

I have shut many people out- I really don't know why.