Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Lately I haven't felt like talking to all of my friends. I talk to my friend(like my sister) all the time, but she is the only person I am consistent with.
So I told my friend about a black and white party we are supposed to attend this Saturday. I invited her weeks ago. She called me yesterday and wanted me to go to dinner, I couldn't because I was cleaning. She got pissy; she does that alot! So I have been ignoring her lately, and many of my other friends. I told them I am just going through a hard time and don't want to talk.
So I call my pissy friend and see if she is going with me. She tells me she did not even know that we were talking, so no. She said I didn't have time to plan for it. So I got pissy and told her okay bye.
She text me do you really think I would go? You should have answered my calls.
I said , "You should understand that I have never shut her out before, and it is just something I am going through".
She text me , I am going through stuff too, not that you would know or care.
So I want to know am I completely wrong? I am there if she asks me to be. I pick up her daughter from school when she needs me, and I am always there for her. I just haven't talked to her consistently. How wrong am I?
So I told my friend about a black and white party we are supposed to attend this Saturday. I invited her weeks ago. She called me yesterday and wanted me to go to dinner, I couldn't because I was cleaning. She got pissy; she does that alot! So I have been ignoring her lately, and many of my other friends. I told them I am just going through a hard time and don't want to talk.
So I call my pissy friend and see if she is going with me. She tells me she did not even know that we were talking, so no. She said I didn't have time to plan for it. So I got pissy and told her okay bye.
She text me do you really think I would go? You should have answered my calls.
I said , "You should understand that I have never shut her out before, and it is just something I am going through".
She text me , I am going through stuff too, not that you would know or care.
So I want to know am I completely wrong? I am there if she asks me to be. I pick up her daughter from school when she needs me, and I am always there for her. I just haven't talked to her consistently. How wrong am I?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
she's wrong for not calling you...you're wrong for not calling her. if she really is your friend and you really hers, you will forgive each other, reach out to each other and it will be fine.
and i completely disagree with jendavids...i am so way past high school...approaching 28 years past...but having NO friends???? not an option for me. everyone needs someone.
I'm sorry your friend is not more understanding.
Divorce Survival: Seven Surefire Ways to Ensure that Your Friends Get Caller I.D. and Block Your Calls
Now, let's be clear about one thing. If you are going through a divorce, I absolutely understand that this is a very trying time in your life.
You deserve to have a huge amount of sympathy and hand-holding from your friends and loved ones. In fact, it's my guess that most of the people around you genuinely would like to be there for you as much as they can and offer as much emotional support as is humanly possible.
Having said that, there are certain things that you can do that will absolutely ensure that your family and friends will cringe when they hear your voice and will be calling the phone company a.s.a.p to install caller I.D.!
1. Assume that you have cornered the market on suffering! If you go forward with the mind-set that you are the only one with worries and therefore are entitled to monopolize every conversation, do not be surprised if you get the answering machine, instead of your friends.
2. Do not pay any attention to events or occasions in your loved one's lives. Do not follow-up if you know they've been ill or have had personal problems. If something good has happened to them (such as a new romance, a promotion, a new house, etc.), everyone understands that it might be too much for you to call to congratulate them or send a card. After all, it's depressing for you to see someone else happy and the conversation just might be too painful!
3. Use your phone calls as a forum to recount every blasted injustice from your "ex." Make sure to provide lots of juicy details and be sure to portray your ex at his/her lowest. Elaborate on your ex's short-comings and insist that your friends agree with you whole-heartedly. Make it clear that it is unacceptable for them to agree with your ex on any account, and you are expecting undivided loyalty.
4. Drop your kids off regularly for them to babysit. Do not offer to reciprocate the favor. After all, you have a lot on your head. It would be unreasonable for them to expect to burden you with too much. If they dare to comment that you have not been paying enough attention to your family, you have every right to remind them of their own parenting mistakes and indiscretions.
5. Ask your friend's spouse to do special errands or favors for you. After all, you don't have the support of a partner of the opposite sex, and there are some jobs you can not do by yourself. Your friends should be secure enough in their marriages not to be threatened if you spend excessive time alone with their spouses.
6. Show up unannounced to their home with a steady stream of dates, even if you know that you will not be seeing this person again. Do not care if their kids are at home. If their kids barrage them with a million questions, heck, that's their problem.
7. Discuss every sordid detail of your divorce, your dating life and sex life, no matter who else is present or what else is going on. Again, if their children or neighbors are present, you should not be expected to edit your conversations. You can't help it if "little ears" or prying neighbors are hanging onto every detail. They should mind their own business.
Well, of course there are many other situations that might have a similar effect. It doesn't matter, does it? Make sure to follow the above scenarios and you should be sure to have antagonized every person who has ever tried to be there for you at this difficult time!
If you want ANYONE in your life to want to be around you, you must set aside your mood, or what ever it is you call it.
People do not want to be around others who are mean, even if your going through hard times it is much easier to be with others than alone.
SO ask yourself am I easy to be around, is this worth holding yourself back from others.
Maturity is hard but you will want many people in your life and to do this you will need to not burn bridges, nor shut down others even if they are PISSY, be the bigger person and say I miss our friendship and want to be part of your life can we put some of this aside and move forward from this place. MAKE NICE AND HAVE FRIENDS.