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my happy meter depends on him

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on the days that i hear from him I seem to be better.... if I dont im horrible, How do you learn to make your own happinsess
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Start by thinking about yourself. Make goals, have some fun!! I know that probably seems like an impossible task right now, but start with something simple.
Baby steps...
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I can sympathise with how you're feeling, being dependent on your ex-partner is natural and very hard to let got of; but as patsdesertrose says, just take one day at a time, that's what I'm trying to do. If you can build a good new life, you will feel less dependent on your ex I'm sure. Hang on in there.
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I have nothing to add really.Just know that you are a strong person and you can do this!!
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You have to learn to do this. It will take lots of time and effort, but it WILL come!

To make it fun, try out new things. Do some of the things you know you like to do, (Unless it just reminds you of him.) Experiment with new activities, make new friends.

I know what you mean when you hear from him. Its that comfort zone thing going! I know ABOUT the comfort zone! Im sorry you are dealing with this! (HUGS!)
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Start making new GOOD memories. Even if they are just by yourself. It may take a while before the memories you are making feel like good memories, but it will kick in sooner or later. Go to the zoo take long walks there, the park, & so on. ((hug))
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True happiness comes from within yourself. You need to find out who you are and what you are all about. If you are happy then you will find happiness in your life.
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