Hi everyone. I would like to thank all of those who replied to my earlier post about my first challenge. Well the Christmas program went pretty good. My stbx and his girlfriend along with her two kids showed up. which I knew they would and I was glad that my stbx showed up for our kids. He did sit very close to me and my family which I didn't really like but whatever. He came over to see our little girl who was sitting in my lap. He held her for a little while right behind me and asked me where the boys were. I pointed them out. He asked me if our daughter could sit with him and I told him no that I wanted her with me. Then we talked a little about Christmas which he wants the kids on Christmas eve and swore to me he would bring them back that night. He than asked when I was going to start letting him have the kids two weeks during the month and I said that I didn't think that was a good idea. Then he said well one week at his house and one week at mine. I told him no to that too but said we could do 2 nights during the week and every other weekend. He said no that he wanted them 2 nights out of the week and every weekend. I said no so again we are not in agreement. Then the program started so he moved back over to where he was sitting. At one point during the program we looked at each other and just smiled. It was nice. I felt like maybe we saw how important being parents is and that we could come to agreements about things in which the kids are involved. It was just a nice moment. Then as soon as our kids were done singing he said goodbye to them and left. I felt really good. At first it hurt to see them together and than I just relized that I was ok without him and I enjoyed seeing my kids sing and I was so happy. I am glad its over but it went so much better than what I thought. Again thanks and sorry this is so long.