Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I was talking to my mom & dad a bit about the divorce, via telephone since they don't live nearby. They always thought stbx was a "saint" (yes, that's what mom said the minute she heard the divorce news, "but he's a saint!"). In one of our conversations, about 3 weeks ago (last one), I guess I complained that none of my siblings had called (3 of them) and the parents chided me for not calling them (they all knwo that stbx left me for trusted friend/employee in mid-August)(and none of them ever give me the time of day unless I am visiting mom and dad and we get forced together). We have never been close, I left home when I was 15. Just seemed like maybe this would be an opprotunity. Wrong. I had called them this last time to say that I was having trouble getting hold of my gramma to check in with her (she's 98 yo). They tell me that she is in a care facility, broke a hip or something, but they didn't think I needed to know. This pushed old historical buttons for me about being omitted from the "family news".
Anyway, I feel like I am the only person in the whole world who TRULY has no-one that loves them. Even my own family has wrote me off. Probly an old psych issue with the family, that I am now combining with the new divorce issue, but it has been bugging me for 3 weeks.
Query: anyone else being ignored by their own family (parents, siblings, etc)?
Anyway, I feel like I am the only person in the whole world who TRULY has no-one that loves them. Even my own family has wrote me off. Probly an old psych issue with the family, that I am now combining with the new divorce issue, but it has been bugging me for 3 weeks.
Query: anyone else being ignored by their own family (parents, siblings, etc)?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
They think my hubby is great and have as much as blamed me for the breakup. Yes, like I don't blame myself enough. I feel sad, but I just cannot talk to them right now, so I don't call either
I realized it was that they didn't know HOW to support me. They were so uncomfortible with the topic of divorce, they chose to avoid.
My advice...which helped ME...is to build your support system outside of your family. Friends, support groups, the DS site. All good places to get the support and love you'll need to get thru this significant transition in your life.
Good Luck to you...
so, in answer to your query: been there, done that, got the T-shirt!
When my dad died, he had been in the hospital for over a week. Somehow, everyone-my dear stbx included, decided that it wasn't in my interests to know...I was recovering from surgery.
I got the middle of the night, it's too damn late, call.
Then the, "he kept asking for you, couldn't understand..." Well, F..k, thanks mom, thanks Jeff.
Some families are shit. I am sorry that you had one, too. Send them your stbx's new address and a picture of your ass with a big kiss me scroll across the bottom.
My stbx's big present to me was to bring my "brother" to live in our driveway. I have gotten to take care of this "man" and deal with him for three years. I am now Leaving Him for stbx. hehehe, they deserve each other, and Good Friggen Riddance.
and then grrrrrrrrrr and going to get divorced..they were all over me.. helped pay for my first lawyer.. mom insisted she be present cos she was paying.. who's divorce.. who's life is this mother?..
blah blah blah... got a new lawyer.. they helped with the retainer.. which i have to pay back.. blah blah blah... did it my way...gave up a lot in exchange for the house etc... Parents pissed off at me now... they wanted their day in court... sheeeeeeesh!.... like that would of costs us a total @$90,000 I would of had to sell the house to pay for the lawyers... sheeeeeeeeesh.. so now.. they think I am a fool.. and they only see me cos of the kids.. they tolerate me.
they found out about my health issues from a third party.. and now they are like.. are you going to die?.. sheeeeeesh.
families are fickled...some are so into their own lives they can not take time to care for others. .. just how it is darling.. call your siblings.... let them know you are in need of some family comfort.. ask for it.
I want to give you a big hug right now....HUGS..be well