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Jlhorlando 12/05/2007

is still coming to my house. (I got it in the settlement) I have asked him to change the bills and other business correspondence many many times. He did fill out a change of address at the post office, but He wasn't thorough enough. (he goes by both his first name and his middle name and he has 3 LLC's that still have my address) I still get a ton of mail. I feel like just throwing it in the trash, but I know some are important bills etc. I am trying so hard to move on and believe it or not, a stupid thing like seeing his name on the mail every day is getting me down. Any suggestions on how to deal with this?

deleted_user 12/05/2007

just put on the letter "please forward" and put it back in the box and forget about it.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

thats what i did with my exs mail

deleted_user 12/05/2007

put in red & CAPITAL letters DOES NOT LIVE HERE!!! & put it back in the mail box

deleted_user 12/05/2007

The "please forward" does not always work because there is sometimes a bar code at the bottom that you have to black out.

Here after 6 months, the forwarding stops because by then he should have contacted everyone and changed the address.

I have been forwarding, readdressing, things, but I am getting tired of it. I hve to forward them to the OW's house! He has had 7 months to change the address and at times I think he keeps one particular bit of mail coming just to get at me.

I am going to start writing "return to sender." Let them figure it out.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

if you don't mind putting yourself out a little, go get a change of address card and do it for him and do it the right way. then take it to the post office. then you'll know it's done right.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

I used to be a mail carrier and the best thing to do is write "not at this address" or "please forward" If you know when you're carrier comes around it would be best to discuss the situation with him/her and they could probaly help you resolve this. Do not fill out a change of address card in his name. It sounds like a good idea, however it requires a signature and forging a name on a federal document is not a good idea.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

just forward it.
i know how it is. i get 'mrs.' on my mail. i still receive phone calls at the house for him too. people still ask me how he's doing when i see them out in public. i hate to even address the topic. it just makes them feel uncomfortable.
you could always call the post office yourself.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

My mailman kept getting upset that I was forwarding his mail. He told me to fill out a form and maybe they won't catch it, but I didn't. Then I just started saving it up for when the kids go to see him. I was getting tired of the mailman complaining everyday about his mail. Eventually he did fill out a change of address, I think he may have gotten some things a little late and didn't like it.

Jlhorlando 12/05/2007

thanks guys, I think I will have a chat with my mail carrier and explain the situation. I am really sick of it. He has had 10 months to change it.

deleted_user 12/05/2007

after 6 months I just tosst it in the trash.lol i mean if there to lazy to change there addy then there to lazy to get there mail and I'm to lazt to wright "please farward" on the letters anymore! lol

CanadianRose 12/05/2007

Just write Not Living Here

Talk to your Postie if you can...just smile and let hiim know..so he will expect to see a lot of these Not Living Here messages in the future.

speaking of mail... I opened up a letter addressed to the EX yesterday...glad I did.. I knew it was our medical cards, and I could feel the envelope...knowing that one card belongs to me..and wow.. got the surprise that I was not on his insurance plan....Whamooo... glad I opened the damn envelope.. lol

deleted_user 12/05/2007

My husband still gets all his mail here. I used to sort through it for him like I did when he lived here. Now I just throw it all in a bag and give it to him, junk and all. He can sort through it himself. I'm not his secretary.

Jlhorlando 12/05/2007

thats what I'm doing now, then I let the kids give it to him when they see him. But last Saturday when they saw him, they forgot to give him the mail and it just sits on the counter building up. the kids only see him once a week now. (he's too busy to see them more - he says) I just want to go through one day without seeing his cursed name!

deleted_user 12/05/2007

Make up some address labels on your computer..write "please forward" on each envelope..stick a label on it and put it back in the box. Your regular carrier can be helpful..but on that carrier's day off or on vacation...use labels. I'm in the delivery business..I see it all the time. One house has a nice little 3" x 5" card next to mailbox that says "the Rat B*****rd, Mr. (fill in name) doesn't live here anymore!".

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